Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Verbal Teasing

Suzy is understandably confused as to the verbal teasing I like and don't like.  I have been thinking about this a lot and I think I know to explain it to her.

I have settled on distinguishing between putting me down and dirty talking.  Philosophically, I don't agree with putting someone down over something they don't have a lot of control over.

I'll try to go through a few examples of what I mean.

Like many men, I'm pretty sensitive about my cock size.  I've seen (flaccid) men naked in locker rooms ~ not that I'm trying to, it just happens sometimes.  I'm a very discrete locker room changer, I line everything up and I do it really fast.  My genitals are out there to see, but I make it snappy.  Other men simply walk around naked.  And yes, I've (inadvertently) seen some pretty big cocks this way.  The most blatant example of this was when I took a surfing lesson.  The instructor had a wet suit on, and his cock was running like halfway down his thigh for all to see.  Let's just say I know there are men better endowed men than me.  And frankly I want Suzy to play with those men.

Why?  Perhaps its the masochistic part of me.  When she has extramarital sex, I want it to be fun for her, and maybe a bigger cock would do something to her that I can't, reach places inside her vagina that I can't 'reach'.  Or maybe a girthier cock could stimulate her clitoris better.  I don't know but I want to find out.

Longtime readers should know that inventing new ways for Suzy to climax is a bit of an obsession of mine.  Anyway, the idea that she gets 'stretched out' a little bit more than I can deliver is frankly a big part of why cuckolding appeals to me - that she can try something different and compare and contrast.  I'm still very turned on by the fact that Suzy has experienced uncircumcised cocks.  See?  That's something I really can't control and I don't feel any less manly that she's played with something I simply can't provide her.  I don't feel bad about that.  It just is.

Put downs
So calling my cock "small" or something like that is not something I would like.  I don't think my cock is small, I think it's around average, but I guess Suzy would probably be a better judge of that.  Anyway, I do NOT want to be teased around being "small".  I'm insecure about this, and I don't need to be more so.

Sexy dirty talking
"Hey baby, I'm interested in this guy with a really big cock.  I'm not even sure it will fit, kinda nervous as to whether I can accommodate him.  I want to know how he feels in my tight married pussy.  Are you on board with that?"  Ummm yes!!!  So yes, her wanting to explore/"be stretched" by someone bigger is erotic.  Go figure.  It's not putting me down for being less endowed.

Do you see the difference?  Saying I'm "small" vs. he's big - or she wants to explore someone bigger - amounts to a stunning difference to me.  one of the most erotic times we had was when Suzy went through a "Cliffs Notes" of the men she's had sex with, their sexual pros and cons.  It was hot.  I do want to know what my wife thinks of playing with bigger cocks.  Honestly; without putting me down.

Aging has done a couple of things to my sexual abilities.  One, I tend to lose my erection if Suzy stops stimulating my cock.  Example is if she plays with my nipples or balls, I may lose my erection even though I'm very excited and enjoying what she's doing.  Two, I *thought* I had a longer recovery time (hours or days).  Note my recent post about vacation sex, which may challenge this notion.  Nevertheless, we've had some cases where I climaxed and couldn't go for a second round.  It freaked me out that I even talked to my doctor about it.  Anyway, you could go two ways here:

Put downs
"Hey old man, I think I need to get a younger stud so that he can keep up with me and fuck me multiple rounds.  Not like you".

Sexy dirty talking
"Hey baby, I'll let you come as many times as you want to this weekend... think you can handle that?  Think you can go for a second round today?  Think you can keep up with my other lovers?"  What man doesn't like rising up (hehe) for a challenge?

Although I was originally annoyed about this at first, some mild teasing about "not needing my balls anymore" (obviously while firmly grabbing them) or teasing me about my infertility is something I think I will enjoy.

"The Double Standard"
I'm very aroused by her rubbing in that we are experimenting in a "half open" relationship where she can have sex with others and I remain monogamous to her.  Alternatively, that sex is for the wife's pleasure and that she comes so hard, too bad husband is denied that pleasure.  Things like that.  It arouses my submissive tendencies.  I like her "trash talking" about how many sexual partners she has had compared to me, and that she's "bull hunting" for more.  I enjoy this type of teasing; I'm not sure if she does.

Name calling and Pillow Talking
Inside the bedroom, I perfectly fine with her calling me "slave", "cuckold" or possibly other naughty names.  I'm not actually a slave, but being her sexual slave (during sex) is exciting.  I don't think I'd like her to call me names like that outside the bedroom.  The last time we had sex, this came up: even though I feel like i "know" how she likes me to penetrate her, it is REALLY arousing to tell me during the act.  I love it, I love her being demanding of me and I think it's just so hot when she tells me to speed up/go slower/go deeper/stop thrusting.  It's so sexy when a woman knows what she wants!

I enjoyed it a lot when she was administering a ball slapping to me that she said things like, "oh come on take it like a man"; "I'm not even hitting them that hard".  Things like that.

Erection status
A good and bad thing about being male is that your sexual excitement (or lack thereof) is right out there when you are being intimate.  There have been times when we were fantasizing and she has teased me about being rock hard, and I enjoy that ("Oh, I guess you like that"; the ol', "do you have a roll of quarters in your pocket, or are you happy to see me?" line works well here).

Or I also enjoy her complaining about me being soft when I should be hard, as long as the above rules are kept in mind.  I'm actually getting older, you know.

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I hope this clear things up ~ at least a little.  Questions?  Please ask ;-)

This is not intended to be a comprehensive list, just what I thought most needed clarification.  I'm sure other things will come along.  Tease away, Suzy!!  Love you!!


  1. I totally follow your logic here. While I know each of us has our own limits and desires, and as much of a fan as I am about the theme of cuckolds, I am not huge on the put-down type of situations. Sure, my wife has had bigger and I'll admit to being aroused at the comparison of size, as long as it isn't told as a put down.

    I do have an e-mail friend who is very much into SPH (Small Penis Humiliation). Funny thing is, his cock seems to be as big or larger than mine, yet I see myself as very average. He is consumed with having his wife degrade and humiliate him for his lack of manhood. We all have our own likes and desires. Like you, I'll pass on the put downs.

  2. Its not always about penis size. Some men are just sexually superior. :)

  3. I found your blog. Incredible stuff. Our marriage involves just us but my wife, D I will call her, and I have been playing with orgasm denial for years (specifically my orgasms). A plastic chastity cage has been abandoned for a metal one. She basically knows me by now and the verbal humiliation is an amazing turn on. We are in many ways just average and equal (although my wife says she’s more equal), but I love doing what I’m told. I’m self employed, so my phone calls are filled with Yes Dears and No Dears and Please Dears and there’s nobody to hear it all or worry about.

    1. Sounds like you are enjoying the ride. Thanks for sharing!

    2. Thanks lovestosubmit. I totally enjoyed your most recent entry on tease and denial. I’ve heard my wife often say she loves how I act and how submissive I get when she tells me she doesn’t want me to orgasm. My chastity device being locked back on sometime after that is an indescribably frustrating and totally erotic experience. That’s how I went to work the first two days of this week and I couldn’t stop thinking of my wife both days and couldn’t wait to get home. Still waiting for this orgasm though.

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  6. Sounds like you can't handle that your "average" size cock (probably less than that), is just too small to easily satisfy a Woman, especially Her. Accept it. Give Her what She needs ... big, thick, long lasting cock on the end of a hunky man. You can clean up.

    1. Not sure how you are getting to these conclusions. her cuckolding me was an extremely erotic experience and the "reclaim" sex was amazing.

      Funny enough, she one time told me that she appreciated me more as a sex partner after having been with some men whose focus was more on their pleasure than hers. That made me feel good.

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  8. in response to your comment/question left at the blog...NO she did not!!!

  9. Great post. As for me, durability is the key, not just the size.

  10. Cuckolding is inherently humiliating - it’s part of the deal. Do any of us want a smaller, sexually inferior man to fuck our wives? Hell no. How much we want to be teased or humiliated by the sexual superiority of her lover is a matter of personal taste.

    1. Hmm, well agree and disagree. I don't find my wife having sex with others inherently humiliating. She's sexy, and I could very easily see why other men would want to have sex with her. it turns me on.

      I do like to be teased about it - the asymmetrical nature of hotwifing is a bit part of the excitement to me. While she is not actively cuckolding me, she will occasionally tease me by saying "oh, this is the exit I got off to see Mike"; and occassionally during sex she will correct me by saying things like "I can give erections to many men, not just you".

      All in all, my wife solely picked her sex partners and the ones she had the best sexual encounters with (meaning, multiple strong orgasms) she only played with once. I can only speculate as to why that was (she was afraid of "falling" for him, she didn't get along with him as well as she might have, he was too flaky, etc.). What I find interesting is that my wife seemed to be more into the flirting, the pursuing, the relationship aspect of the men she had sex with as oppossed to being singly focused on the men that provided the most pleasure to her. I know, it sounds weird to me, too.