Saturday, May 20, 2017

Rediscovering Kinks - CFNM and Dirty Talking

Thursday, I greeted Suzy at the door fully nude.  We began kissing and I quickly got hard.  Just getting an erection feels great.  As I've gotten older, my spontaneous erections have gone way down. Gone are the teenage days when a bikini ad tented up my pants.  There's "morning wood" but it's just not the same when I'm not fully conscious and Suzy isn't a participant in my hardon.  

And by "participate" I really mean that she feels, sees, comments.  I really do think that a male getting a hardon for a woman is the ultimate compliment he can give her - after all, he has no control over it.  She always feels her lover's erection, but seeing, observing, commenting is a big fetish of mine, the CFNM fetish.

As we were standing there, my wife felt my erection and "checked me out", saying, "your balls are really tight".  There are certain trigger words that she says that excite me: cock, balls, cuckold, orgasm, come, my lover(s).  When we were first married she would give me handjobs in a more sitting position (now, she usually rests with her head on my chest, then scoots over to avoid my load).  She would say in a sexy voice something like , "oh, your balls are getting tight, looks like you're about to come".  I had no idea that my balls contracted as I approached orgasm.  And in some ways, it seemed like it became a conditioned response, that she knew before me when I was going to blow my load, and announcing the movement of my testes seemed to push me over the edge.  Anyway, this type of dirty talk makes me feel that she "knows" me sexually.

This dead giveaway was one reason why Suzy was so good at ruining my orgasm, when that was something we enjoyed doing.  She would sit up and observe my arousal progressing, and my body just highlighted when I was going to come, and she could time removing the stimulation.  This makes me feel like I'm an animal to be observed and controlled.

And, I have had some pretty fantastic CFNM handjob/breast sex orgasms.  I can think of a fantastic session we had when we visited the place we used to live; we found ourselves alone in a hotel room but she was on her period.  She was wearing jeans and a t shirt; I was horny, it was during the day and she said "I'll take care of you".  I got fully undressed and she positioned herself between my legs and stroked me until I came.  So hot!  And the time when she told me to wear a condom for titty sex.  I got so turned on with her pressing her D-cups against each other to increase the stimulation of my cock, and she just watched me pump away - later telling me she thought it was "sexy" watching me fill the condom with semen.

In CFNM kink play, I do prefer her to be in sexy/revealing clothes.  Jog bra and yoga pants - yes!  Catwoman outfit - please!  Naughty Santa's Helper!  Her PJs do have pretty good cleavage views!  

I really like sex with the lights on.  I like to be watched.  I am a CFNM fan and I'm horny.

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We ended this session with the Hitachi over her clit, and her firmly holding my cock and balls (she actually did use both hands).  We both enjoy the risk in her squeezing very hard on me as she comes.  And I did continue the rush of being fully nude while she had her full PJ outfit on.  She came VERY hard, and basically just passed out asleep, sexually content.

Monday, May 15, 2017

Cuckolding experiment over (?)

Anyone reading my past few posts may have seen that Suzy made a rare appearance in response to a reader comment about her blog.  She was pretty clear in her response that she deleted her blog and that our foray into the world of cuckolding is over.

If you recall, Suzy had settled on one longterm play partner, and she was feeling comfortable enough with him to envision a cuckolding fantasy where I would watch them have intercourse (round 1) and then I would reclaim her (round 2) while he was in his refractory period, followed by a second coupling with him (round 3).  She would then dismiss me and they would have their first "sleepover".  That was her fantasy, and it seemed like it would happen since all parties were on board with it.  But alas, it never happened.

Suzy mentioned several reasons for it and while I have a solid idea on a lot of them, I won't go into all of them.  Suffice it to say, a big reason is that her playmates were unreliable.  We gave the cuckolding lifestyle the college try and we found that just as it was ego-boosting for her to be sexually sought after by other men, it was equally ego-bruising to have flaky playmates - especially when "Friend #6" seemed to be the long-term "boyfriend" that she wanted.

It turns out Suzy had a good opportunity to reconnect with "Friend #6" but he flaked out again and Suzy wasn't buying his excuses.  Such is life, but I will say this seems to be a common problem for cuckold couples.

My feelings on this?  Well, I must reiterate our cuckolding rules from the very beginning: that we both have veto power.  She has vetoed this lifestyle, and I respect that choice.

Secondly, no regrets on my part.  A surprising thing about this cuckold experiment is that I never developed feelings of jealousy.  When she had a playdate - especially with a new guy - I did feel "cuckold angst" but that was mainly around her safety and wanting her to have a good time.  And a strong desire to hear about what they did, and to reclaim her.  I did have some angst about all the sexting she'd do, but when I understood that the pursuing, the flirting was a big part of what appealed to her, I become OK with it.  I gotta be honest here, knowing my wife has caused other men to be sexually excited, to get hard and to ejaculate never got old.  Even married men uninterested in hotwifing would be proud to know that their wife turns other men on!  I happen to have proof!

Thirdly, I'm grateful for her for trying, for indulging in my kinks, and for doing this "for me" (LOL?).  I'm proud of her.

Lastly, in my minds eye, my kink around her cuckolding me need not go away entirely:
  • Her "hall pass" is still valid (e.g., I have not vetoed her having sex with other men).  If she randomly sees a guy that she wants to play with, she has my permission - whether that be the local cougar lounge, a swinger event, or one of her prior playmates.  I still DO need to hear about it, that has not changed.  
  • I would prefer to not sweep this under the rug.  We both enjoyed this experiment (perhaps me more than her?) and if nothing else, would enjoy being reminded of her escapades from time to time (not going to lie, when I am going down on her, the fact that she has had six other cocks enter where I'm licking definitely does cross my mind!)  
  • To be clear, I'm not pressuring her in any way, I'm just saying that I'm essentially reverting back to being a wannabe cuckold again, which can offer a plethora of opportunities for sexy teasing and dirty talk.  I'd welcome her talking to me about her thoughts of uncircumcised cocks, what it was like to be in bed with younger studs that were turned on by her MILF-ness, teasing me that she's had more sex partners, comparing her lovers' attributes, etc.  There are of course lots of opportunities for cuckold role playing, and I'm game for that.  I hope she's ok with that, instead of quitting "cold turkey".  
  • And - perhaps at this point stating the obvious - if our life circumstances change (e.g., when we become empty nesters) - it may make sense for us to revisit this as a couple.  Maybe she just needs to find the right lover...

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Wife initiated sex is the best sex; a tale of multiple fetishes in a married early morning encounter

Just wanted to jot down a quick note about a sexy encounter we had a few nights ago.  If you recall, Suzy had a bit of a fetish about waking me up for sex.  This is obviously a big turnon for me, making me feel like I am her personal sex slave.  Very hot when she does that.  Well, a few nights ago, I was going on a business trip and had taken my sleeping pills since I had to wake up at a ridiculous hour.  I was sound asleep.  Wife waking hubby up for sex fetish - check!

I started waking up to the feeling of heavy petting on my cock outside my shorts.  Reminded me of our dating days, actually.  Lots of manual foreplay on my cock, before she allowed intercourse.  Anyway, I got really hard and it was feeling great.  It had been a long time since we'd played and since I had a solid, pleasurable erection.  Dopamine was flooding my brain.  Hubby feeling like a sex slave fetish - check!

She then reached into my shorts and began with manual skin on skin contact.  OMG wife initiated sex is just the best.  Wife in charge of sex fetish - check!

Did not know what she had in mind.  But I love her being in charge, setting the pace.  She said something like, "I want you inside me" (I was still have asleep, but rock hard).  She then said, "but I want you to wear a condom".  So there I was, having had a delicious amount of foreplay and a great erection, I think I asked her if she wanted to come first, she said no, so I undressed and walked over to get a condom, pulled her PJ bottoms off, unrolled the condom over my married-and-shooting-blanks cock.  Again, the thought of reverting to "boyfriend sex" with a condom went through my mind.  Wife dicktating [sic] how I fuck her (with a condom) fetish - check!  

I slid right in and we kissed a bit, I played with breasts some, even though she still had her top on.  I got turned on by the vulnerability of me being fully nude but teased by not experiencing her whole sexy chest (big breasts, hard nipples, swaying during the sexual rhythm, etc).  Clothed female, naked male fetish - check!

I knew I wasn't really going to last that long.  She was groping my body, kissing, and the sexual connection was feeling great.  I don't exactly know what she did next, it wasn't exactly an ass-spanking, kinda more of a playful slapping, something she hadn't done in a while, but we both knew it was turning me on and then I shot my load into the condom.  Wife being rough with submissive hubby fetish - check!

I then cleaned myself up and she got the vibrator out and finished herself off.  I vaguely remember playing with the skin just outside her vulva as she buckled her hips and came.  Female orgasm fetish - check!

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By the way, I did make my plane flight.

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Questions 49 - 63

49: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in?

Interesting question.  Suzy seems determined to get a tattoo as a bonding experience with a child.  She's never really said what she would get, and when I joked about something like I love my husband she dismissed it entirely, which kinda hurt my feelings.  I assume that she will eventually, and I don't think she really knows what she wants.  But, would I be excited by some design that's in an area for me only, like on her ass, near her pussy, or on her breasts?  Sure, but I'm a little freaked out by the permanency of it all, and tats usually don't look so good decades later.
50: How would you feel about taking someones virginity?

Did that once, never again...
51: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter?

Gross question, don't want to answer...
52: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute?

Don't think this applies to me...  
53: Do you watch porn?

On occasion.  I have written a few posts about this, a replacement of our "Desperate Housewives" sex ritual, which I think we both enjoyed.  Plus, I think I've suggested to her before that, given her affinity for male strippers, we try this porn parody of Magic Mike.   
54: Have you ever been called a freak? Why?

Well, I think the term used is pervert, and several times; I kinda like the idea that my wife is OK with me having unusual kinky fetishes, some of which she enjoys too.  LOL.
55: Do you feel comfortable going “commando”?

Not really.  On days when it's very likely that we will have sex, it's fun to wear thongs.  Suzy and I differ on the "expectations" side of things.  When I feel that there is a 90% probability of sex, I really do enjoy having that expectation.  It's fun to be wearing something sexy that serves as a constant reminder of our marital playtime to come.  But no, not really that into no underwear at all.
56: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn’t shaved their pubic hair?

Yes.  I can recall a few times when I was going down on her and some of her pubes went up my nose.  Not a pleasant feeling.  I do feel that I am somewhat obsessed with pubic hair.  When she tells me she's shaved (or, if I "find out" by doing some intimate research), I'm pretty excited about it and usually go straight for cunnilingus.  See "expectations" above.  I wouldn't mind if she shifted her pubic hairstyle every now and then: I do think a landing strip is extremely sexy, but the hair needs to be well away from my nose, and I do strongly prefer her labia to be shaved.  But pubic hairstyles have a big advantage over tattoos, that they are not permanent.  As an aside, I trim my own probably about once a month.  I don't like the "natural" look at all, on myself or Suzy.  
57: If you could give yourself head, would you?

Kinda weird.  I suppose if it was for Suzy's entertainment, if she "made" me, I would.  But I'm pretty sure I can't, LOL.
58: Booty or Boobs?

Feel like this was addressed in an earlier question.  Best answer I can give is physical attraction I'm an ass-man, but during sex play, I'm more of a breast man.  I just love the reactions I get from her during foreplay when I'm playing with her breasts.  And don't forget, when I've warmed her up enough to suck her nipples, it's like a direct nerve line to her clit - sometimes she demands that I penetrate her or otherwise make her come, which is hot.  Have I said that I like it when she's sexually assertive?
With her ass, it's like a long term admiration thing.  She's got a sexy ass, and it's not just me that thinks so.  Suzy doesn't really seem all that open to playing with her ass during sex.  Don't think she likes to be spanked, and she doesn't seem to enjoy anal ticking like I do.  I'm sure I do grab it during sex, but she doesn't react to it the way she does with her breasts.  And a lot of times I get into trouble when I grab her ass during non-sexual situations, which she really doesn't like.  But I can't help myself!
But I sort of object to the premise of the question - implying it is one or the other.  Just a part of her sexy package of "assets".
59: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?)

Nope.  
60: If you were the other sex for a day, what are five things you would do?

Let's just say I would fully take advantage of the multi-orgasmic functionality of the female sex.  I'd probably come dozens of times.  I'd probably wear something extremely provocative and watch men drool over me.  I'd definitely do a MFM threesome and be ravished with two hungry cocks, four horny hands, and two mouths feverishly attacking me.  I'd get picked up in a bar, and make a male buy me drinks and stuff.  Is that enough?  But, the multiple orgasms.  That's what I'd do...
61: Have you ever watched someone masturbate?

Kinda.  Suzy's not much of a masturbator, frankly.  But she has done some pretty hot things with the Hitachi.  One time, she tied me up with my hands up in the air and made me watch her coming with the Hitachi.  And a few times, she laid her body on top of mine so that I can "feel" the convulsions from her body as she climaxed.  That was very hot too.  
62: Has anyone ever watched you masturbate?

Honestly, I can only think of one time when Suzy watched me masturbate.  It was in the basement of our old house, and we were playing something on the kinky side.  It might have been the "catwoman" night, I'm not sure.  I may be missing some details here, but I think Suzy had already had her orgasm(s) and she then said something along the lines of, "I want to watch you finish yourself off".  I believe I was sitting or something and I stroked myself while she was watching.  I liked how assertive she was (should not be a surprise to anyone here) and I'll be honest with you, it was kinda hot to "perform" for her.  Something I'd like to do again, frankly.  Maybe with her taking pictures or video of it.  I love to feel "watched".  But TBH, my orgasms are 10x more powerful when she gives me a handjob.  I do have some interesting masturbation fantasies involving her watching...
63. Have you ever had an erection and someone noticed?

Not that I can recall as an adult.  We've had some circumstances that we've been in a restaurant talking about sex or cuckolding and I've gotten hard, and simply told her that I can't stand up right now, which I think she found amusing.  Might have had some times when I didn't have the table as a boner blockade and she mentioned something about sex or cuckolding and I got visibly hard in public.  I'm sure it happened as a teenager, but at that time, I got hard just about anytime I saw anything remotely sexual.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Questions 26-48

26: Something that will never fail to get you horny?

- Wife-initiated sex is the best sex, and her attacking me will always make me horny.  Or, if she tells me what she wants (e.g., I need your dick inside me/an orgasm/etc. now).  She looks great in jeans, she has certain tops that show off her cleavage very well.  I love it when she wears sports bras and yoga pants and thongs. 
27: Early morning sex or late night sex?

- Late night; Suzy will not allow sex in the morning :-(
28: Favorite body part on the opposite sex?

- In nonsexual situations, it's ass.  When we were dating, I literally recognized Suzy across the quad by her ass (not making this up!).  Her ass is still as thrilling to me now as it was then, but she doesn't seem to get that aroused with ass grabbing/play.  
- During sex, it's probably her breasts.  Not only do they look awesome, but she reacts to them in ways that turn me on a lot during foreplay.  The outsides of her breasts are very sensitive.  After a while when she's more aroused, I will suck her nipples and there are times when she makes nonverbal communication that, "OK, mister, foreplay is over, give me and orgasm NOW".  There seems to be a direct connection between her nipples and her clit, which is amazing.
29: Favorite body part on the same sex?

- Ugh, hard question for me to answer (LOL).  I'm not really sure how I can have a "favorite" part, but I'll answer that I think my chest is probably my best asset body-wise, so I'll go with that?  
30: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find:

- Our sex toys for sure.  Kinky underwear we might have.
31: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you:

When we were dating, my future wife starting playing (tickling?) my ass and I could not believe how enjoyable it was.  Just gently "feathering" that area seemed like lightning rods of pleasure to me.  I thought that "weird" at the time, but I loved it.  It turns out that area has lots and lots of nerve endings.  I'm usually very careful about making sure I'm clean down there just in case she plays with it.  And, paradoxically, when she does this I typically lose my erection.

Honestly, that doesn't seem that weird now, so I'll answer it with a bonus that we were watching the porn version of 50 shades of grey and somehow I ended up with my ass up, my aneros prostate massager in my ass, and she was "fucking" me with it while playing with my balls.  I think she was still watching the movie (and she had already orgasmed herself) and I came in that position eventually.  That was pretty unusual, I would say, and would love to try that again! 
32: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?]
No, it seems kinky/naughty to do pre-ejaculation, but post-ejaculation it seems completely disgusting.  And Suzy does not seem that into this in any case.
33: Is it ever okay to not use a condom: 

Sure, if all parties know what they are getting into and can commit to being "safe" during that time.
34: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience:
Human sundae for me, please.  Whipped cream, chocolate, cherries, chopped nuts, oh my!  And just thought it would be extremely tantalizing for her to eat a banana "down there", side by side with my cock.  I think women eating bananas is very sexy, for obvious reasons.

35: Worst possible time to get horny:
When kids/family don't allow for the resolution - or expression - of that horniness!

36: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans?
Absolutely.  She's so sexy when she approaches orgasm.  It's one of my biggest turn ons.  I truly enjoy/appreciate her giving me sexual feedback.

37: How much fapping is too much fapping:
[For Suzy: "fapping" is slang for masturbation].  Nobody talks about fight club.

38: Best sexual complement you ever got:

After she climaxes, when she says, "OMG that was amazing/I can't believe how intense that was/Why do I turn that down so often"; basically things along the lines that she had a pleasurable experience.  I think my wife got a text from her playmate along the lines of "tell your husband I appreciate his willingness to share you" - does that count?
39: Favorite foreplay activities:

I enjoy foreplay to be as adult "play time".  I really enjoy any activity we can do before we get to the bed.  Suzy is always in a big rush to get to the bed as soon as possible.  I like to make out with her standing up, naked, so she can see and feel my lust for her.  I guess I'm super visual, I like to see her in a sexy outfit and that excitement just builds and builds.  I love to play with her body, hitting her deep erotic areas, her breasts, her shoulders, her neck, her ears, her armpits (not really sure why, but she gives really awesome reactions when I play with her armpits) and later her nipples and inner thighs/pussy.  It's like a checkoff list, has to be in a certain order.  By that time, she almost demands that she come.  Which is nice.
Foreplay for me, I like her touching my chest/nipples, and teasing me a lot with my cock/balls/perineum.  When we were dating she used to sort of pretend that she didn't want to touch my cock while she was stimulating all around it, but would slightly touch it and say, "ooops".  She doesn't do that quite as much anymore, but I do enjoy that.  It was maddening/frustrating, but in a good way.
40: What do you wear to bed?

I wear fairly over-sized gym shorts.  Super comfortable, easy to take off.

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Q & A part deux

13: Is there anybody right now you’d like to have sex with?

- Yes, my wife Suzy!
14: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?

- Oral sex in our bedroom is uni-directional, me going down on Suzy; and I love it, especially when she comes.  Her scent is a little too strong for me just before and just after her flow, but otherwise it's just lovely.  Of all the sex acts we perform, for me it feels like I am truly "making love" to her.  Especially love it when she is nicely shaved down there, it's such a turn on.  I wish it was more consistent to get her to climax, but perhaps I need more practice...
15: Most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?

- I have farted exactly during my ejaculation; but I think more embarrassing than that was for me to ejaculate (twice) while performing cunnilingus on Suzy.  The first time sort of ruined things for both, but the second time I was able to man up and finish the job on her.  Her moaning was just so damn sexy...
16: A song you’d listen to during hard/rough/kinky sex?

- Just about anything by Led Zeppelin or AC/DC sounds about right.
17: A song you’d listen to during soft/slow/passionate sex?

- Foolish Game by Chris Isaac, over and over, I suppose.
18: Are you into dressing up for sex?

- I have a strong CFNM fetish, but I do enjoy wearing thongs; the feel of the fabric up my ass is erotic and I think I have a conditioned response or something, that whenever I wear thongs, something sexy will happen.  I do love it when Suzy wears sexy outfits, I like "unwrapping" her as, sort of on a body part by body part basis.
19: Would you prefer sex in the bath or sex in the shower?

- Shower, but Suzy generally refuses.  She is one of those women that is "always cold" and does not want to share the warm water.  At least that's what I think anyway.  
20: If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be?

- Suzy.  Now.
21: Have you ever had a threesome? If not, would you?

- No, and I want it desperately.  A MFM that is.  If you haven't figured out from my blog, satisfying my wife is the ultimate sexual high for me.  The thought of her being pampered by four horny hands, two mouths, and two hard cocks is super erotic.  I only worry about the Inigo Montoya syndrome.  That is, I've been wanting that for so long, maybe when it finally happens something could go wrong (e.g., I can't perform, he can't perform, one of us comes too soon, we don't clique somehow, etc.)  
22: Do you/would you use sex toys?

- Very frequently.  Please realize that most times we are intimate, it's very late at night and I'm not ready to perform acrobatic sex.  So perhaps my oral sex game isn't what it should be, or whatnot.  So, I frequently use toys on her, and she does have fantastic orgasms.  I normally finger her pussy while the vibe is on her clit, but frankly we have a lot of sex toys that we don't use, and I'd like to alternate more.  Especially with some insertables.  Suzy doesn't seem to like it as much, but when I inserted a big dildo in her pussy, it was super exciting to me to watch her labia stretching to accept the phallus.  I loved that.  I will note that most of our sex toys meant to be applied to me are mainly there to reduce or slow down my sexual pleasure, but all of them are to enhance hers.
23: Have you ever sent someone a dirty text/picture?

- Yes.  We have done two erotic photo shoots of her that were intended for her lovers or potential lovers for her dating website.  Very, very sexy experience being the photographer and trying to compose a photo of your wife that would arouse another male.  I got one with my hard cock in it, but I noticed she didn't send that one, LOL.  And yes, sexting is an important part of our pre-sex foreplay.
24: Would you have sex with your best friend?

- Yes, Suzy is my best friend.
25: Is there anything you do after sex? (for example, smoke, eat, drink)

- When I was younger, I'd fall asleep immediately, but nowadays I get amped up.  It depends if I come or not.  If I don't come, I usually help her get dressed, then take a sleeping pill and cuddle with my hardon pressed against her ass.  If I do come, I usually bask in paralytic post-orgasmic bliss for a few minutes, then clean up, then take a sleeping pill, then cuddle with my soft cock against her ass.

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

91 questions (from JF Break)

Idea came from fellow blogger JF Break Out.  

1:When did you lose your virginity?

- I was 17 and it was with a girl I knew from elementary school and we ended up dating in HS.  It was not a good experience, probably for either of us.  I remember feeling very awkward about rolling the condom on and feeling really guilty after I had ejaculated.  She was not a virgin, she had been with an older man, which now that I think about it, seems like it would be illegal.  I think we did it a few times.  She had a unique last name (e.g., easily google-able), I had a rough idea of what she wanted to do career-wise, but I still could not find her on google/stalk search.    
2: Rough sex or soft sex?

- Rough.  I think sex is inherently rough (I'm usually on top of her in missionary and I outweigh her by ~40 pounds - that always struck me as maybe a bit uncomfortable for her?) and messy.  My arousal and orgasm are much more intense when she pinches my nipples, slaps/squeezes my balls, spanks me, etc.  Love that.
3: Do you have any unusual kinks/fetishes?

- My blog is mostly about my kinks and I'm forever grateful to my wife for exploring them.  We've done a lot of pretty kinky stuff together, but I have a pretty vivid imagination.  Top ones that we have done are cuckolding, CFNM, male orgasm denial, and cock and ball torture.  Definitely would like to watch her get fucked and be watched (us fucking, a MFM threesome, or her dominating me).
4: Weirdest place you’ve had sex?

- In the community jacuzzi at the apartment building I stayed in my senior year of college.  I entered her but I don't believe I came.  The thrill of being caught was exciting.  Also did it in a van on a side street in a very fancy neighborhood before a very fancy dinner; I came that time, but we used a condom.  Can't have a mess in the family van!
5: Favourite sex position?

- Hands down, wife on top.  Not that I'm lazy, it's just so erotic to watch her use me for her sexual pleasure, focusing on her own orgasm and placing her hands on my chest to get leverage.  My love language is "physical touch" and I just love feeling her body on top of mine; have I mentioned I love it when she touches my chest?  Makes me feel strong and manly I guess.  I have a lot more stamina in this position, as well.  I think I've only come a few times in this position, and one time it was when she first started pinching my nipples, so I was super turned on.
6: Do you like to be dominant or submissive?

- Haha, pretty obvious I like to be submissive.  I do have a dominant fantasy of tying her up and "forcing" her to have many, many orgasms.
7: Have you ever had any one night stands?

- No.
8: Sex on the bed, couch or the floor?

- Mainly the bed, but sometimes we've done it on the floor and in our closet to muffle the sound when we have company over.
9: Have you ever had sex in a public place?

- Yes, see number 4 above.  In addition, the day she became a hotwife (which was done in her vehicle) we did it in her vehicle as well.  We were like horny teenagers and couldn't wait for marital reclaim sex.  Suzy seemed much more comfortable with this than me, frankly.
10: Have you ever been caught masturbating?

- Not that I can remember...nobody talks about fight club!
11: What does your favourite sexy underwear look like?

- I like it when she wears matching bra and thongs, and it's fun when she wears panties that have a message on them that informs what will or won't happen, (e.g., "Access Denied", "Lucky"). 
12: How often do you have sex?

- Not much lately, but I keep good track of our orgasms on this page.  Long term average is Suzy comes about 6 times per month, I come about 3 times per month.

Friday, March 10, 2017

Hubby Loves Cunnilingus...a little too much ;-o

I was hoping for sex last weekend, as Suzy and I have had overlapping illnesses.  She seemed finally getting better, and I *needed* some marital relations.  Friday night, we crashed early.  Saturday morning, she mentions that she is taking a "long shower", which in our household means she's shaving her pussy and/or using the showerhead for some female pleasure.  In this case, it was the former (as far as I know...).  So, I knew her pussy was nicely shaved, which makes me want to go down on her.  However, she went to a late movie with a child, so no sex Saturday.

The excellent book She Comes First gives a lot of tips on how to orally pleasure a female.  Maybe I'm not that great of a learner, as I've struggled to bring her to climax with my tongue.  However, a central premise of this book is that few women (I think it's been quoted as around 25%) can achieve orgasm through penetration.  So, the author argues that cunnilingus should not be considered as foreplay, but rather as the main event of the sexual encounter for the woman, resulting in her orgasm.  That part of the book I get.  In most circumstances, Suzy does come first, but given our busy lives, we frequently use toys to get her off.

In any event, I had in my head that I'd like to go down on her.  I really do believe that cunnilingus is the best representation of making love to her.  It feels loving.  It feels intimate.  People in general are very protective of what they put in their mouths, so it's a loving, trusting, sensual thing.

She came to the bedroom Sunday night dressing sexy, she climbed into bed, and I began groping her.  She was receptive.  I took my shorts off and she was more aroused than normal, she was more vocal with soft moans, which I was loving.  I pushed her PJ bottoms off, and I entered her, feeling very good about my stamina, considering how horny I was.  But then I was thinking about cunnilingus.

My theory is that the times we are successful with oral sex is when she is very aroused with lots of foreplay.  And I could tell she was aroused.  After about the second stoke inside her, I could feel her wetness on my cock.  I stopped after ~30 seconds of intercourse to go down on her.

She was receptive.  I love it when she's nicely shaved down there.  I love that she was wet before I started, and I usually have to tease her a bit before she's ready for clitoral stimulation, but it felt like I could go right in there to her pleasure center.  She tasted great.  She was moaning and seemed to be loving the attention.  I was very cognizant of my usual mistake, which is to speed up as she gets close to climax.  I kept a steady pressure on her clit.  Her moaning was getting more ardent, and sometimes she involuntarily bucks her hips as she gets close to orgasm.  Everything was going great.

Except, I felt a surge of excitement coming over my own genitals.  I was so aroused from her moaning, and so excited with the prospect of getting her off with my tongue, that I came.  I ejaculated.  I had an orgasm.  Except for the ~30 seconds of intercourse, she had not touched my body.

However, to my credit, I kept going instead of the other time this happened.  My premature ejaculation was probably seconds before hers.  Her orgasm was terrific for both of us.  She did buck her hips and her moaning was so erotic.

Frankly, I wasn't sure myself what had happened to me.  It wasn't an intense orgasm, and I thought maybe it was a "ruined orgasm".  I had full pressure on my penis, which was on top of the shorts I jettisoned.  I was hoping that it was a ruined one, and that I could continue with sex after her post orgasm down time.  I looked at my mess on my shorts, and it was a big load, a mess.  I didn't feel like I was going to be able to get hard again, and confessed to Suzy that eating her pussy was a little too exciting for me.

Her reaction was one of disbelief.  She didn't remember the time this happened before, and was very surprised.  I think she thought it was funny, and then said something about her having "power over men".  She asked if I was thinking about cuckolding, and I wasn't.  I was really just turned on by her moaning and obvious level of excitement.  In the following days, she teased me a bit about being a "fast husband", or something like that.  The reality was that it was embarrassing.  But I guess it proves that I enjoy going down on her....  a little too much?!  Perhaps we should do this more regularly so that I can learn to take the excitement better!  Love you, sexy wife!


Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Part 2: Birth Control Options for a Hotwife

Summing up, I have a vasectomy yet sometimes we use condoms for convenience.  The first convenient reason being that we don't want my load in hard-to-clean places, like her vehicle, a sibling's house, things like that.

Or, there's the other reason: when Suzy is almost starting or almost finishing her period.  She will typically tell me to use a condom.

Such was the case in our first intercourse session of 2017.  I had no problems rolling it on, and I got really excited about having sex with her.  I entered, and penetrated her slowly like she likes.  But then, I thought of something that aroused me intensely and made me come faster than I would have liked.

So for some more background, Suzy seemed to want to go away from condom usage with her lover.  She floated the idea by me and I gave her some feedback.  On their 3rd playdate, his second round of intercourse, he did not use a condom, but he pulled out and ejaculated onto her stomach.  Then, on their 4th playdate, he actually came inside her, giving her a "creampie".  We did not have reclaim sex that time, for various reasons.  Needless to say, that is a big step in a cuckolding relationship.

So, as I am penetrating my wife with my condom-wrapped cock and as she is approaching orgasm, I start to think about the fact that I haven't had a lot of sex with Suzy, and realize that the last time she played with him, he dropped his load inside her.  Here I am (the one that's snipped, monogamous, and her husband) fucking her with a condom.  That "double standard" caught my attention and therefore I couldn't get it out of my head.  We actually ended up coming at the same time, which is nice.  At any rate, I was turned on by the discrepancy, it made me feel extremely submissive, so I came.

I really have no idea as to what's going on with her lover, or the chances for any men that might be "pinch hitters" for her primary extramarital lover while he is "out of commission".  Suzy has told me that she's a "one man hotwife" (although I think she really means "two man" hotwife, lol) so it's not clear if she will remain "faithful" to him or she will seek other more physically capable studs.  Or, if she will take a break from hotwifing.  Time will tell.

Meanwhile, we had our second intercourse session of 2017.  It was more romantic/tender than usual.  I really had no expectation of sex.  Back in the day, I used to give Suzy a lot of massages, especially during Desperate Housewives.  It was a fun experience for us, as I'd probably be massaging mainly her feet for say 30 min, and she would sometimes stroke me to get me hard.  Then, we'd go upstairs and have sex.  Well, this time, she has had some back issues, and I massaged her.  This arouses her, it is foreplay for her.  She practically asked for an orgasm, so I gave her one in the way she typically enjoys.  I then took my clothes off and wanted to get a good erection by being on top of her.  She really didn't say much, so I entered her.  I might have asked her it was ok for me to come inside her, she said yes, and we had a nice session of sex.  It was more "making love" than normal, if that makes sense.  She surprised me by reaching to my chest with both hands and pinching my nipples HARD.  I came almost immediately.  Perhaps it was the shock of that, given the context.  I'm curious to know what Suzy was thinking.  But, I do like it when she's rough with me.  A LOT!!!

Friday, January 27, 2017

Part 1: Birth Control Options for a Hotwife

Unfortunately, 2017 has not got off to the best start.  A number of reasons, most of which are unrelated to - although do impact - our sex life.  Suzy has three climaxes YTD, and I have one, although I will have to update the orgasm tracker to reflect.

Suzy made two (maybe three?) efforts to play with her "friend" but they did not work out.  In fact - paradoxically - they are both out of commission.

Out of commission - "Friend #6"
Her paramour unexpectedly had an intense medical procedure that will leave him out of commission for some time.  Nothing directly related to his genitals, but I think it's fair to say that the male needs to have certain physical dexterity to perform the sex act, and he may not have that for some time.  While I immediately thought Suzy might use this as an opportunity to do some role playing as a "nurse" or otherwise cheer him up, that isn't the case.  It seems that his recovery regimen didn't lend itself to the sort of care that Suzy would provide.  I personally don't know what his rehab program entails, but I suspect that they are still communicating.

Out of commission - Suzy
Well, Suzy is on her period.  Being a fertile female, that's not unusual, but I just saw some irony in the "out of commission" metaphor that I simply couldn't pass up.  It also happens to be the euphemism that Suzy and I employ most commonly.  In any event, around Tuesday of last week, Suzy seemed to be "in the mood" and she mentioned that she might be starting soon, so I figure there was a good opportunity for some marital relations.  While I don't remember the exact details of our foreplay, her outfit, etc., one aspect of our session caught me off guard.  I have some mixed feelings about it, and I've been processing them for a while.

For some background for this "two parter", you need to know that our primary birth control for the first decade or so of our marriage was her taking birth control pills.  We did the whole reproduction thing, then when we were done, I got a vasectomy.

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So, as a couple, we've never relied on the use of condoms for primary contraception.  We have typically used condoms for "convenience".  Say we are having sex at a relative's house, neither of us want my load splattered in a loved one's home.  Bro Code.  Or, when we had sex in our vehicle.  How would we ever clean that stuff up?  It's just less messy for me to wrap it up.

Sunday, January 1, 2017

My Bride's thoughts!

I'm never going to whittle down my backlog of draft blog posts if I keep adding new ones.  Anyway, just wanted to give a shout-out to my hotwife's thoughts on our cuckolding adventure.  Always great to hear her perspective!  Love that woman!

We talked about it briefly today, and the major thing I got wrong in my writeup on the wife watching/hotel fantasy is that I will not be locked in chastity.  Anyway, she's pretty specific about her expectations in her post.

Happy New Year!

Cheers
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