Sunday, October 18, 2015

Assertive Wife, Denied Husband

Friday night was a "cuddle only" night where Suzy was tired and did not want to have sex.  We cuddled very nicely, which made me really horny for Saturday.  I had asked her to shave her pussy (because that is awesome) and that I really wanted to go down on her because it had been so long.  She made it seem like it was not a done deal that I would get to eat her out - said "we'll see".  She did shave it, but we had a long day and we were both really tired.  I wanted to come so badly.  I initiated foreplay and I just thought I was too tired for pussy eating.  I wanted her to come RIGHT THEN, and fortunately she was on the same page.  After she was aroused, I slipped her PJ bottoms, then her panties.  I fingered her and placed the Hitachi on her clit.  She had a FANTASTIC orgasm.  I got on top of her, still erect, kissing her, and asked if I could penetrate.  She was clear in her response, no, she didn't want me to penetrate her, she was done with sex and wanted her clothes back on for sleep.  Play time was over.

I've blogged about this before, but it is so HOTT when I am denied and I dress her.  I have a thing for clothes (Halloween's coming up, hon, can we play with sexy costumes?).  It is so sexy when she moves her hips to help get her panties and PJ bottoms on.  Such a sexy site to watch.  But I suppose the reason it turns me on so much, when I am super craving to be inside her, is that it is a clear acknowledgment that we are done with sex play and that I am going to bed horny.  It just really hits my submissive buttons.

This morning, I broached the subject about last night's session and she seemed pleased that I was still very horny, and she clearly said that she was "sexually satisfied" from her orgasm last night.  As she was leaving, she said, "Husband, I have a few errands for you".  It turned me on the way she said that, it was not mean but laid out clear expectations.  I will get to it shortly, but I have already started the laundry, emptied the dishwasher (which I loaded the day before) and will probably do some more clean up.  I got her a Starbucks this morning.  It's the Oxytocin from my denial, I suppose.  Horny energy that makes me want to serve her.

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Prior to that, Suzy mentioned that she had a new playmate in mind.  I really enjoyed the openness of the conversation.  She told me that she was surprised herself that she is interested in him, since he is the same age as us (we both are turned on by her playing with a younger stud).  She is actively trying to find a time to meet with him, and what really surprised me was how direct she was that she is going to meet him by herself.  I had thought that she wanted me to be there (for protection?  for evidence that she is not cheating behind my back?  not sure really why I thought this, but I did).  Again, assertiveness.  My wife's confidence seems to really be accelerating.  A confident, sexy wife makes for a very happy husband.  I love you sweetie!! I realize this is a bit unorthodox, but it is working for us, and I am really enjoying the journey.


Saturday, October 3, 2015


No, nothing's gone wrong with our relationship.  We simply saw the sex, drugs, and dysfunctional relationship film "Trainwreck".  It had some funny/sexy moments.  The most relevant would be the scene with John Cena (the wrestler).  He has a penchant for dirty talking/smack talking using very gay language.  At any rate, he and the lead character are having sex, he is totally naked and she has most of her clothes on.  She suggests that he does some dirty talking and it is very awkward what he comes up with.  It's pretty embarrassing.

That made me think of the differences between Suzy and I when it comes to sexy talk.  I really like it when she talks dirty to me.  She does not like it as much.  I believe she finds it distracting as she reaches her orgasm.  A good dirty talking usually brings me much closer to climaxing.

Things I enjoy during dirty talking:

  • References to my anatomy, especially in third person: "oh, he seems pretty excited..."; anytime she says "balls"
  • The "do you like..." rhetorical question: "do you like it when I pinch your nipples"; "do you like it when I come...";
  • Femdom orgasm denial smack talking: "too bad you can't experience the pleasure of an orgasm tonight"; "My orgasm should be good enough for both of us"
  • Light humiliation: things like, "good boy"; "take it like a man, I'm not smacking them that hard..."; calling me names like "slave"
  • Double standard: "I was thinking about going to a swinger party where I can have sex and you can't"
  • Cuckolding: just hearing the word "cuckold" from her turns me on
I really do enjoy it when she talks dirty when we are having sex and I'm ready to come.  it intensifies things a lot for me.  I suppose there are other avenues to explore that would turn me on.

I'm interested in what other couples do for this.  What made the scene in Trainwreck funny was that the woman asked Cena to dirty talk and it was super awkward.  I guess sex talk can be awkward.  A lot of times we actually joke around when she has climaxed and she is letting me.