I like the feeling of being "inspected" by her. When we were first married, during handjobs, my wife would typically tell me, "your balls are creeping up, so you are about to come". I always found that to be super hot. First, I didn't know my balls creeped up prior to ejaculation. Second, it turned me on that my wife was watching my sexual response (which, years later she exploited during our experimentation with "edging" me and ruining my orgasms). Third, I loved how she verbalized it to me, like a play-by-play of my orgasm. I like feeling like a piece of meat, especially due to the reflexive nature of sex - I can't consciously "make" myself erect or orgasm - it's purely instinctual and out of my control.
A couple of sidebars about nudity
- I've never been all that thrilled about being naked in front of other men. Changing in locker rooms, its hard to avoid seeing other males that are....err... more blessed than I am. Prostate exams by my male doctor are certainly not sexy (damn the last one I got hurt like hell - he went skimpy on the lube!). If we ever do have a threesome, I am curious to know what it feels like to see and be seen in an erect state. No idea. Part of me thinks I will have a hard time getting it up.
- Being partially nude in front of others. I don't really get aroused by going to the beach, I guess because it's expected to have minimal clothing, so everybody does. In fact, socially acceptable men's beachwear is not very exposing at all, and certainly women's beachwear is much more so.
- The weather has changed a bit, and in the mornings it's a little cold. I usually sleep with just some athletic shorts, shirtless. When I am getting up in the morning, I'm usually horny (I understand that testosterone levels peak in the morning - gosh I wish we could play before work!) and also because of the cold, my nipples are fully erect. Usually at this point the only one I will see in this state is my wife, who will be fully dressed by this time. She is usually scrambling around at this point, so there's not a lot of sexy time, but I do like her seeing me with my nipples erect and usually a partial erection from the "morning wood".
So I conclude that it's the power imbalance and the baring of my deepest desires (my reflexive erection for her) that turns me on.
Last weekend, my wife climaxed so I cuddled her until she quickly fell asleep, no orgasm for me. I couldn't sleep cause I was so turned on. I was nude and simply walked downstairs to get some water, do a little phoning, and take a sleeping pill. She'd probably not like that I was nude, for the chance of being "seen" by someone else living at our house. But it was so late, that the risk was really low. But I wanted to explain how much it turned me on to be still partially aroused by our sex play and the excitement I get from being naked, from being horny but resisting the temptation to jerk off.
I've told her before, that once we are empty nesters, I'm not wearing clothes inside the house again.
* * * * *I realize this is a long post. Just to catch up, wife denied my orgasm last weekend, during the week she woke me up for some really freaking hot sex (damn, she played with my ass, which felt GREAT), and she denied me last night. She was "tired" and didn't really want to play last night but I was so horny I persisted with foreplay and you could tell she was aroused. I realized this was going to be a quickie, so I wanted to do the Hitachi/fingering combo. She didn't want that, she just wanted an orgasm then sleep. There was my sexy wife, fully clothed, me fully nude and erect, hovering the vibrator over her pleasure nub, while she grabbed my hard cock and balls during her rather spectacular orgasm. It was spectacular. As she said, her orgasm satisfied the both of us. Hoping for some more extended play tonight, when she is well rested. Anal play sounds great right now (strapon perhaps?). Cock and ball torture? Playing with toys we haven't used in a while? Spanking? So many horny thoughts going through my mind right now. Sex is fun :-)