Saturday, September 19, 2015

Exposed and Aroused (CFNM)

Clothed Female, Naked Male has long been one of my top fetishes.  The feeling of vulnerability I get being fully nude, fully exposed to my wife is an adrenalin rush.  As I told her once, if God wanted us to wear clothes, we would have been born wearing them.  LOL

I like the feeling of being "inspected" by her.  When we were first married, during handjobs, my wife would typically tell me, "your balls are creeping up, so you are about to come".  I always found that to be super hot.  First, I didn't know my balls creeped up prior to ejaculation.  Second, it turned me on that my wife was watching my sexual response (which, years later she exploited during our experimentation with "edging" me and ruining my orgasms).  Third, I loved how she verbalized it to me, like a play-by-play of my orgasm.  I like feeling like a piece of meat, especially due to the reflexive nature of sex - I can't consciously "make" myself erect or orgasm - it's purely instinctual and out of my control.

A couple of sidebars about nudity

  • I've never been all that thrilled about being naked in front of other men.  Changing in locker rooms, its hard to avoid seeing other males that are....err... more blessed than I am.  Prostate exams by my male doctor are certainly not sexy (damn the last one I got hurt like hell - he went skimpy on the lube!).  If we ever do have a threesome, I am curious to know what it feels like to see and be seen in an erect state.  No idea.  Part of me thinks I will have a hard time getting it up.
  • Being partially nude in front of others.  I don't really get aroused by going to the beach, I guess because it's expected to have minimal clothing, so everybody does.  In fact, socially acceptable men's beachwear is not very exposing at all, and certainly women's beachwear is much more so.
  • The weather has changed a bit, and in the mornings it's a little cold.  I usually sleep with just some athletic shorts, shirtless.  When I am getting up in the morning, I'm usually horny (I understand that testosterone levels peak in the morning - gosh I wish we could play before work!) and also because of the cold, my nipples are fully erect.  Usually at this point the only one I will see in this state is my wife, who will be fully dressed by this time.  She is usually scrambling around at this point, so there's not a lot of sexy time, but I do like her seeing me with my nipples erect and usually a partial erection from the "morning wood".

So I conclude that it's the power imbalance and the baring of my deepest desires (my reflexive erection for her) that turns me on.

Last weekend, my wife climaxed so I cuddled her until she quickly fell asleep, no orgasm for me.  I couldn't sleep cause I was so turned on.  I was nude and simply walked downstairs to get some water, do a little phoning, and take a sleeping pill.  She'd probably not like that I was nude, for the chance of being "seen" by someone else living at our house.  But it was so late, that the risk was really low.  But I wanted to explain how much it turned me on to be still partially aroused by our sex play and the excitement I get from being naked, from being horny but resisting the temptation to jerk off.

I've told her before, that once we are empty nesters, I'm not wearing clothes inside the house again.

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I realize this is a long post.  Just to catch up, wife denied my orgasm last weekend, during the week she woke me up for some really freaking hot sex (damn, she played with my ass, which felt GREAT), and she denied me last night.  She was "tired" and didn't really want to play last night but I was so horny I persisted with foreplay and you could tell she was aroused.  I realized this was going to be a quickie, so I wanted to do the Hitachi/fingering combo.  She didn't want that, she just wanted an orgasm then sleep.  There was my sexy wife, fully clothed, me fully nude and erect, hovering the vibrator over her pleasure nub, while she grabbed my hard cock and balls during her rather spectacular orgasm.  It was spectacular.  As she said, her orgasm satisfied the both of us.  Hoping for some more extended play tonight, when she is well rested.  Anal play sounds great right now (strapon perhaps?).  Cock and ball torture?  Playing with toys we haven't used in a while?  Spanking?  So many horny thoughts going through my mind right now.  Sex is fun :-)


  1. Hello,

    I have been wondering a bit how your wife feels about, has changed, thought processes etc since you started your journey?

    I'm thinking about things like:
    1. Is your wife more selfish now in bed or in general?
    2. Does your "play" extend into your "other" life as well because of your wife?
    3. Does your wife initiate you giving her an orgasm more often now? Is it because she doesn't have to recipriate?
    4. How does your wife see you now compared to before?
    5. How has your wife changed since your cuckolds started?
    6. How does your wife look upon the cuckolds and the inequality that brings?
    7. Is your wife happier now?
    8. What does your wife want to happen/explore/test in the future?

    How do you see yourself in the regards of the above?

    If you reply it might suit itself better as a post.

    1. Hello Anonymous,

      I know my husband has already answered your questions from his perspective, now let me answer from my perspective. (I think I'll have to answer in two separate posts).

      1. YES! I would say I am totally more selfish in bed. Knowing how much he enjoys watching me orgasm, how could I not give him that enjoyment ;) I probably should provide him a little more attention but I do make the focus more on me.

      2. I'm not sure what you mean by this question either. Could you clarify? If you mean our everyday life...I would say it does a little bit. When we go to a restaurant and I see a hot waiter I will tease my husband. Say things like he's hot or he could be my new lover. It doesn't in the sense of who's in control. My husband likes for me to be the dom in bed. In our everyday lives that's not how it works. He's the man of the house and everyone knows that. Our kids do see him cater to me at home. He'll rub my feet when I tell him to and he'll make me a drink when I tell him to.

      3. No I do not. I do not initiate my orgasms. Actually, I am usually really tired from work or up really late after he goes to bed. I am usually not in the mood when we do go to bed at the same time. He knows how to get me in the mood though. A nice soft touch up and down the side of my breasts gets me there every time! I wish I would initiate it more. I know he would like me too.

      4. Do you mean do I see him differently since he's communicated his kinks? I would say that I do not see him any differently. I feel closer to him knowing that he can share his thoughts and feelings with me. It doesn't mean that I will engage in all his kinks and fantasies but I'm willing to try some. If I don't like them then we won't do them again. I know he was originally scared to share his fantasies with me but now it's nice that he feels comfortable with me. I used to not like going to bed at the same time as my husband because I felt there was always this expectation that he wanted to have sex. Especially on those nights where the bedroom door would be locked and a candle burning. I always knew he had expectations. I would, quite often, start a fight or something because it felt very high maintenance for me. I don't feel that way any more. I know that the only thing he desires is to please me! He'd prefer to be denied as long as I have my orgasm. Yes, he wants some attention but it's more enjoyable to me than a chore like it used to feel.

    2. 5. How have I changed? This is a hard question because we have just started this new lifestyle. I like to tease my husband more about me being with other men. I am actually excited about trying to be with more men. I feel more loving towards my husband because he's more loving towards me since we started this new lifestyle. I appreciate my husband's sexual abilities more as well. This is a question I'd like to think about and come back to after a longer time experiencing this lifestyle. I'll get back to you on this one.

      6. I totally love the inequality it brings. Only because he is okay with it. As long as he's okay with not being able to have sex with another woman while I can have sex with other men, then who am I to complain. If he was not okay with it, then I wouldn't engage in this extra curricular activity. I never thought I would be okay with myself being with anyone other than my husband. But it sure has been fun and exciting. I hope we can continue!

      7. I would say that I am happier in a sense. It really depends on how this question is interpreted. I believe that the fact that another man wants me, besides my husband has given my self esteem a huge boost. I feel like my confidence has greatly increased. I feel sexier! I think that has definitely helped my confidence sexually when I'm with my husband. Feeling sexier makes me happier.

      8. I am very interested in beginning a swingers lifestyle. I am interested in finding swinger parties and clubs to be a part of. I have no idea if I'll like these parties or clubs but I'm excited to try a few out and see if it's what we want. We'll never know until we try.

      Thanks for your questions and I hope I answered them clearly enough for you. I am excited about this new adventure my husband and I are starting. We will keep everyone posted as we move forward.

  2. When I was a teenager, and even into my early 20's I used to get erections at the most inoportune times, which made me very shy around girls. I remember when baggy pants were in fashion, what a blessing it was to wear something where your erections were less noticeable.

    I still have pictures I took with young ladies, where I have my hands inside my pockets... How embarassing...

    Although I no longer have this problem, I can totally see how the NMCF thing would get me embarrassed and aroused.