Sunday, July 26, 2015

Dining at the Y, Hubby Going into Lockdown

Last night, I was "cock blocked" because we had a guest downstairs.  We hadn't been intimate in about a week (life getting in the way and all) and I was not going to be denied with some intimacy last night (but do read on...).  Suzy was wearing her day to day PJs (which I bought her, they are a unique combo of sexy for me, but warm for her).  She noticed I had the door locked and smugly said, "no sex tonight because of the guest downstairs".

I get her on this.  This is actually how we stumbled onto male orgasm denial in the first place.  Our bed can be loud, and she is very conservative around stuff like that.  But I really had a craving to go down on her.

She would probably never admit it, but I could tell she was horny too.  She was very open to foreplay, and enjoyed it when I sucked her nipple.  There isn't a lot of noise during cunnilingus, except for her orgasm itself, which she can stifle when she wants.

So, I took her bottoms off, and went down on her.  It was great.  I really do feel that "dining at the Y" (my favorite euphemism for cunnilingus by the way) is the best way I can make love to her.  I don't last that long during intercourse, even though we both enjoy that.  But, I like being able to truly make love to her and I feel that I do that in a very loving, intimate way when I perform cunnilingus on her.  She was a lot more verbal with moans during the time prior to engaging her clit.  If I've learned anything about how to increase her to enjoyment of oral sex, it's Rule #1: DON'T GO STRAIGHT TO THE CLITORIS.

She climaxed.  My "success rate" for orally bringing her to orgasm has improved a lot as a result of obeying Rule #1, in combination with Rule #2, MAINTAIN A CONSTANT PACE WITH YOUR TONGUE; my big mistake was that as she approaches her orgasm, I get excited and involuntarily speed up the pace.  She does NOT like that!

Her orgasm was strangely muted.  I guess she did not want anyone to know about the pleasure she experienced, LOL.

She apologized repeatedly for how much "work" it took, etc.  I love it, though.  My worst day eating her out is still better than my best day at work, lol.  During the session, she subtly undulated her hips into my mouth, which was really erotic for me.  I put her clothes back on, as she decided that there was no release for me, and we talked a bit about sex, and then we went to bed.

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Well, I skipped over an important part.  So, I haven't come myself in about a week.  She is going on a trip and will be gone another week.  She told me I'd have to wait until she returns before I can orgasm.  Then, she said that she wanted me to lock up in my chastity device, so that she knows that I will have "behaved myself".  It's been a while since I've been locked, and it will be about a week in solitary for me.

Her acceptance of my kinks has really made me feel closer to her.  I love this woman!

Thursday, July 23, 2015

The good, the bad, the ugly

The events of the past week have been pretty breathtaking.  My Queen was very much aware of my posting, and seemed interested to read my perspective on the whole thing, but I doubt she has.  We have actually had a pretty busy summer lined up.  So, for now, I'd like to reflect on:

The Good
I am no less excited after her "tryst".  BTW, she usually refers to him as her "friend", please note the italics.  I know exactly who she is speaking of when she uses that tone.  When we are alone, she will be a little saucier and say, "my lover".  During penetration a few nights ago, as I was about ready to come, we were looking into each other's eyes, and I was thinking, this is a sensual woman that enjoys sex.  The thought that she has a bit more sexual self awareness, a bit more refinement in knowing what pleasures her sexually, crept in my mind.  I quickly ejaculated after that thought.

I enjoy the teasing.  She basically said to me that she was thinking of every Monday being "sex with her friend" day (alas, see below - "The Bad").

When I think of her being interested in other men, I get excited.  I am a middle aged man, and need a bit more attention to get aroused sometimes.  But no joke, I was busy at work, pretty focused.  On my way to take a leak - maybe 30 yards - I started thinking of her playing with her friend.  I was erect by the time I got to the urinal.

The Bad
She is having "boyfriend problems".  That really sounds weird to say.  During our pillow talk, she will lament that once they had sex, he stopped "pursuing" her.  She seriously seemed agitated.  They hooked up again, and it seemed like she enjoyed it.  She wanted to go for a third "playdate" before our recent trip, but it didn't work out.  He is having some personal issues, and thus was not interested in sex.  Weird, because I am always interested in sex.  Barring a death in the family, a 9-11 style tragedy, or some other truly earth-shatteringly bad event, I am open to sex play.  At any rate, she is pretty open to saying, "what do you think I should do"?

The Ugly
Well, she rescheduled play date #3 for this Monday but he "flaked".  Wife was seriously mad.  I was very tired from our travels, and so I went to bed early Monday, with the knowledge that my wife was going to be having sex with her friend (I had to take a sleeping pill!).  She told me her friend had flaked and she was pissed.  I mean really mad.  So that's the ugly part.

We have not had a lot of time to communicate about this.  My Queen in general is not that forgiving for things like this.  My suspicion is that they had some sort of "fight" and she's probably not going to approach him again right away.

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This may be the end of "hotwifing", or we may resume it again.  I suppose I'm OK either way, as long as we follow our "rules".

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Suzy's Hall Pass

My loving, caring wife of ~20 years had sexual intercourse with someone beside her husband, me.  This has been a fantasy of mine for several years now, and it did in fact happen.

Well, it has actually happened twice.

There are a lot of details, but I will try to summarize:

The "Friend"
Her "friend" is about 10 years younger than us.  He pursued her through a work interaction, and they were texting each other quite a bit, often at late hours.  Suzy has some affection for him, but as far as I can tell, she doesn't necessarily think of him as "hot".  (yes, I asked about cock size comparison, and she said we are roughly the same).  He apparently prefers blowjobs (who doesn't?)  but Suzy is not that big on blowies.  He used a condom (this is one of our agreed upon rules, since she is not on birth control) and claims that he has reduced sensitivity to the point that he did not, on either occasion, climax.  This was the big disappointment from Suzy's perspective.  So, I guess you can say, he has good stamina.

Suzy views this relationship as a friend with benefits sort of thing.  She claims not to have "feelings" for him (this is another agreed upon rule).  She has told me that she feels more comfortable playing with someone she knows as opposed to a random guy from Craigslist.

Suzy approached him with the threesome idea (which is more of what I'd like to try) but he was not cool with that.  He does not know that I know about and approve of this.

The venue
They did it in her vehicle the first time, and his the second time.

The lead in
We've tried Craigslist hookups before, but they did not work out.  Suzy is very aware of my fantasy, had some interest in this guy, and she asked me if I was really OK with it over dinner.  I gave her the green light.  

Suzy went out of her way to say she would NOT have intercourse on their first "playdate".  I insisted she take a condom in her purse.  He requested the she not wear panties.  She wore a very sexy outfit (in fact, it was one that she bought but thought it was too sexy for general public wearing).  She looked hot.  She had teased and denied me mercilessly leading up to the date.  I was about as horny as I had ever been.

The playdate
Well, Suzy did in fact have intercourse.  It sounded like he "attacked" her immediately.  She told me a lot of the details - while we have had sex in this particular vehicle, I don't think it's really all that easy.  They tried a couple of positions and he was frustrated that she didn't come.  He fingered her, and she came.

The aftermath
Suzy had refused to give me the details of the encounter until I got home from work.  No detailed texts.  Just more teasing, and I was about to burst spontaneously.  We basically went to a Starbucks, parked and chatted for a long time.  I was surprised that she did it, because she kept saying she wouldn't.  In a bit of irony, it was too early for us to have sex at home, so we parked her vehicle and had sex in her car.  We screwed like rabbits through the rest of the week.  The most sex I think we have ever had.

Things have cooled down a bit since.  We had a family vacation, and she got her monthly visitor.  I don't think either of us regret fulfilling this fantasy.