Saturday, March 28, 2015

Her changing preferences

We had a bunch of near-miss nights of sex play.  One night she falls asleep early, the next night she's up really late and I have to get to bed.  We had been out of sync, again.

Suzy was on her period last week, and she did not want to be sexual - at all.  The weird thing is that she can have tremendous orgasms with the Hitachi while she is menstruating.  I don't get why she doesn't accept this pleasure, as it is exciting for both of us.  She simply did not want to be sexual at all.

But we did a tremendous amount of cuddling - non-sexual touching.  We would typically wake up all over each other and her alarm would go off, she would hit snooze, and then we'd change cuddle positions.  For a couple of days, we were late to work because we were so into this.  My understanding is that such touching releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone.  It made me very horny.  I could feel the testosterone flowing in my body.  My beard grew extra thick.  I needed sex.

We finally synced up for sex on Thursday.  It was a passionate sex session.  I initiated foreplay by sucking her nipples.  She was getting super hot, undulating her hips and moaning.  She told me to move to the other one.  I really didn't get any foreplay myself, but as I entered her, she was super wet - more so than usual.  I love it when she is ready to accept me.

I penetrated for a while, and I was surprised at how much endurance I had.  I hadn't come in a while, and I was super pent up.  I figured I would blow my load soon.  I pulled out to get the vibrator and was going to finger her with the vibe, then she said she wanted my cock in her while she came.

So that's what happened.  We had near simultaneous orgasms, which is always awesome.   Her orgasm began before mine, and the excitement of her climax simply was too much for me, so I came inside her, mid-climax.

What struck me is that for a number of months, our go-to sex move for her orgasm was me to have the Hitachi on her clit and me to slowly finger her pussy in a particular way that made her come very hard. It was like we had "discovered" a great orgasmic experience for her and it was fantastic.  Lately, as with our last session, she has preferred my cock to the fingering.

This of course helps my ego a lot.  She really likes my cock inside her.  We don't always come at the same time, I usually try my very best to hold out as long as possible, let her calm down after her orgasm, and then re-enter her (assuming she has given my permission to come).  But it is always satisfying when we do come together.

Bottom line, things are looking good sexually, but not that much Femdom... yet.

Saturday, March 21, 2015

Waking husband up for sex

It's been a long time since I've posted anything.  Basically, life has gotten in the way.  2015 started well, then took a turn for the worse - life stuff that didn't have anything to do with Femdom or sex at all for that matter.  I suspect that we didn't have any sex at all in February :(

Things picked up over the past couple of weeks.

My wife and I have very different sleeping patterns.  I am a complete wreck if I have anything less than 6 hours of sleep, but I really need 7-8 hours to function best.  My wife, on the other hand, retains the same sort of sleeping pattern than in our 20s, and I think that she even pulls all-nighters every now and then.

As is "normal" for us, I went to bed before her but this time, she woke me up for sex.  I am a heavy sleeper, so I can't say I am fully cognizant of all the details of how she woke me up, but she got me up and we had intercourse, her coming with my cock in her pussy.  I asked her permission to come and she granted it.

She did this again about a week after, but it was a hotter session, more passionate (although I had some "problems").  She woke me up and started sucking my dick.  You have to put this in perspective.  I really can't remember the last time she gave me head.  I used to get it on my birthday, our anniversary, and Father's day, but I think it's been over 2 years since I've had a blowie.  It was awesome.  This session had a lot of nipple sucking as well.  It was a hot, passionate session.

Some Femdom play came into play.  She mounted me on top, cowgirl style and reached around to smack my balls a couple of times.  I love woman on top sex.  I was afraid that all this hotness would result in premature ejaculation.  I started thinking about non-sexual things to avoid that.  She was getting pretty close to her orgasm, then things didn't feel quite right.  It turned out, I got soft.  I was pretty freaking embarrassed about that.  I am still sort of having some anxiety over this.

The recovery was OK.  She got up and then I fingered her pussy and used the vibe on her clit.  She had a great orgasm.  By that time, I was hard again, and then I came inside her.

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My thoughts?

  • Wife-initiated sex make sex so much hotter.  When I reflect on these sessions, she clearly wanted sex with me.  And that is awesome.  I would say I initiate sex 99% of the time.
  • The blowjob?  I don't know what to say.  Perhaps she wanted to take matters into her own hands to get me harder, faster.  I loved it.  Will she resume to giving me head from time to time?  No clue.
  • I am very embarrassed about losing my erection.  My wife rarely gets on top.  It's the only way she can come from intercourse.  I am pretty upset that I blew this.
  • The femdom aspect of sex?  I truly think she enjoys inflicting pain on me.  I see that picking up in our future.  If you are a long time reader of my blog, you will probably know that my Queen had a spell where it turned her on to wake me up for sex.  One of the hottest sessions we had was when she woke me up, fucked me cowgirl style until she came, and then said, "too bad you can't come; good luck getting back to sleep".  Wow, that was a hot experience!  Would love to do this again!