Cunnilingus is probably my favorite sex act. For me, it is a very intimate, loving act for a husband to perform on his wife. I don't necessarily feel that "submissive" doing it*. Before we were in a femdom relationship, I still enjoyed going down on her. I like her taste, her scent, and hopefully the orgasm she gets from my oral lovemaking.
She is not comfortable "telling" me what sex acts to perform. I guess you can say that her shaving her pussy is as close as it comes to her guiding me to go down on her. I have told her a million times that I love going down on her, and she sometimes refuses it. My speculation is that she is not as clean down there as she would like, or that she doesn't feel like we have time for it and simply wants to come quickly with the Hitachi vibrator. Going down on her is not a quick thing, it probably takes 5-15 minutes to result in an orgasm. And it is not 100% guarantee that I can get her to orgasm orally, but the Hitachi vibrator has never failed. I am a better cunnilinguist than I used to be, but certainly have room to improve.
It so happened that as I was going down on her, there was a piece of stubble that was in my chin. I guess she missed a spot. It was digging into my chin, and making me feel itchy. She was well aroused and I couldn't exactly stop. I overcame it, and she came nicely. It was loving. Almost every time after she comes, she tells me how great her orgasm was. I consider myself to be a connoisseur of her orgasms. They all seem very powerful, more powerful than my orgasms for sure. When successful, her orgasms from my tongue are very intense.
There are only two drawbacks: I can't figure out how to eat her out and penetrate her vaginally at the same time. I am pretty sure that it would intensify her orgasm, if I could figure that out. The angle/geometry and my inability to multi-task seem to be the main reason. I have tried to do that with her on her knees and me underneath her, with limited success. She seems to prefer being on her back when receiving oral sex. Yes, I have fantasized a lot about having another male assist in this regard. Perhaps, if the angle and geometry are right, I would attend to her clit orally while he penetrates her vaginally. Something I would really like to try down the road.
The second is that she refuses to kiss me afterwards. I usually rinse my mouth out right afterwords while she basks in her orgasm. She will let me kiss her on her neck, but not on the mouth. I wonder how common that is with women.
Anyway, after she calmed down from her orgasm, she let me penetrate her and I came inside her. It was nice. We typically get a little more "vanilla" around holidays/vacations, and I think this was an example of that. She did text me the next day that her pussy was still oozing my semen. I really like it when she tells me that.
* My wife no longer gives me blow jobs. She never has liked to do it, and she had reluctantly given me a blowie for my birthday and our anniversary, and maybe Father's day. But she really has gotten past that as an "obligation". I really do not expect to ever receive another blowjob. It is most definitely a double standard. What I am trying to say is that I really enjoy pleasuring her this way, and she does NOT enjoy pleasuring me via oral reciprocation.