There have been two things that made me think about this even more than normal. First, our child has a new friend, the parents of which are divorced. I have met the dad and I know that Suzy has interacted with him on a few occasions. Suzy said that she has been texting him for pickup times and such things like that. Perhaps I am reading into things, but the thought of her texting with another male strikes me as somewhat intimate. Intimate in the sense that it is private between her and who she is texting, whereas with email, we share an account.
I am not one to say whether said divorced man is "handsome" or not. He was nice, and I would think that a recently divorced man is probably not having a good sex life and therefore would be "available". He splits weeks with his ex-wife, so there would be a readily available location for play. He is probably older than we are, which kind of goes against my fantasy of her playing with a young stud. On the other hand, perhaps he would be vasectomy safe, which would be a big plus. I have not mentioned the idea of playing with him to Suzy.
My phone was low on batteries last night, so I picked up her phone and started going through her facebook. She seemed strangely nervous about this. She regularly checks my phone and I just found out that she had unfriended some people on my facebook account and without telling me about it. I guess this is another example of our "double standard". I did notice that she had been exchanging messages with someone we went to college with, a male that I believe she "liked". They have been trying to get together to see each other. In that case, however, I was aware that she was contacting him. I have no problem about that. The thought of her contacting other men is arousing to me.
After our last session, out of the blue, Suzy said, "maybe it's time to look for a boy toy for me again; we came so close last time we tried". This was after she had climaxed and it really kind of stunned me. I told her that I would enjoy that, and the topic kind of stopped there.
* * * * *I had recently re-read her blog postings and was struck how much she really, really hates "topping from the bottom". A significant reason for this blog was for me to share my fantasies with her, but she has basically stopped reading it. I don't think that purpose was being met. It seems like if I bring up fantasies to her, it's almost a sure-fire way to ensure what she WON'T do. So, I am not sure what to do about this. Probably no action is the best action. If she wants to post an ad looking for a 'boy toy' to play with, I would support her. However, I don't think that bringing it up will be a good idea. Sometimes being a sub is tricky and full of contradictions. Ugh.