Friday, October 18, 2013

When a vanilla sex act is kinky

Our last sexual experience involved an application of the vibrator to her pussy and a handjob for me.  Sounds pretty "vanilla" for a femdom couple, right?

The session began, like most playtimes, with me caressing her body, especially her chest and back.  She matter of factly told me she had started her period, and that I wasn't to touch her "down south".  In some cases, she sort of "tolerates" my advances and allows me to proceed until she gets more aroused.  In this case, she gave me a lot of nonverbal cues that she wanted to be pleasured.  Yay for us!

In any event, I worked the Hitachi Magic Wand through her pad and she had a lovely climax.  It is great to see my Queen come in any cases, but when she is horny it adds just a little bit more of a spice to the big event.  Following her post orgasmic bliss, I still caressed her boobs and then she laid on my chest and began stroking me through my shorts, which I removed.

Much to my delight, she kept going and I was getting very aroused.  In my head, I was wondering if she was going to tease me or let me come.  That's what inspired this post, the "will she or won't she" aspect of it.  When you have a clear understanding that the male partner's orgasms are completely up to the dominant woman's you just never know.  As my pleasure was mounting, I kept wondering more and more, will she let me come?  Again, this was all nonverbal.  I know better than to ask, because that would be "topping from the bottom".

Alas, she did stroke me to orgasm.  It was a straight handjob, no ball smacking or any real kink involved.  It was great.  She very lovingly caressed my balls as I was coming down from my climax.  Lovely.

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Unfortunately, our alone time since this session has been nonexistent.  But we did some significant cuddling this morning, and this physical affection has often been a precursor to some play time.  Hoping that's the case tonight.  We shall see.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Chastity record broken, "Needy" submissives

My Domme extended my chastity record to a full month.  She allowed me to orgasm in her pussy on September 30.  Pardon the pun, but it was a bit anti-climactic.  She felt I was being too "needy" and I think she just didn't want to deal with my longing for physical intimacy.  I wonder if other denied men face the same challenge.

During this period, we had 7 sessions and she had 7 orgasms.  She expertly teased me during this time and we had an especially nice dominance/submission session on Sept. 14.  She woke me up and ran ice all over my body.  My Queen seems to really enjoy waking me up for sex play, which is something that turns her on.  The ice was particularly fun because I really couldn't tell what it was at first.  Yes it was cold, but most liquids feel cold when applied to the body (and you have to remember that I had just woken up and was a little disoriented).  I actually told her later that I thought it was some sort of lubrication.

I was on my hands and knees with my ass up.  This is an extremely submissive posture and acts to further push me into "sub-space".  Following the ice play, she used a crop and the whip on me.  Not knowing what's going to happen to me really amps up the experience.  Suzy was particularly playful and creative and really seemed to be "into" this playtime.  This was one of the better sessions we've had.  Even though it was great all around, I have lately been thinking about how awesome it felt for her to tease my ass with the crop.  I am really hoping that we can resume some form of anal play ~ I am craving it more and more.

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This denial period was pretty fun for both of us.  I felt compelled to serve her, especially for the few days after a play session.  I bought her Starbucks on a few occasions.  I felt compelled to do so, like I had no choice.  This is exactly why Suzy likes to deny me orgasm.  My horniness translates into "courtship behavior" and she likes it... a lot.  She teased me that I might not come at all.  She seemed to really enjoy controlling my cock and she was very intent on making my period of chastity lengthy.

But I do understand why Suzy felt like I was needy.  I was in full-on "courtship behavior" a few days after a session, but if it went longer than that, I started to get antsy.  She is busy with her career and kids and even though she loves to orgasm, she just doesn't want it that often, whereas when I am denied, I crave sex play.  I have said this on my blog before, but I really do become depressed if I don't attain a satisfying erection.  A few days before I finally released, she got fed up with me and said, "why don't you go lock up?".  I turned it down.  I know that seems like heresy, but she clearly said it out of exasperation.  She seemed slightly annoyed at first, but then kind of dropped it.

We had a fun session a couple of days after, but really haven't played at all since.  We had some spats and "life has gotten in the way".  I am, once again, craving an erection.  Not necessarily an orgasm, but an erection.  Followed by at least one of us climaxing.