Saturday, November 26, 2011

A different kind of vacation sex

We just returned from a weeklong vacation. Being the cheap bastard that I am, we stayed at a relative's house. My Queen, while definitely up for sex (thankfully, her period was over), does NOT feel comfortable having sex at relatives' homes. If I wanted sex, I really should have sprung for a hotel room. But that would have been awkward for other reasons. In spite of lots of experiences to the contrary, I brought some condoms, thinking that controlling my spillage would facilitate some action. Did not happen.

We don't have a reliable travel-sized (and sufficiently quiet) vibrator anymore. When packing for vacations, I give probably more thought to packing sex aids (such as the the unfortunately ill-fated and sadly unused condom idea) than toiletries. My thinking was that I would finger my bride for her orgasms, and possibly get between her legs for some oral attention. We didn't have a ton of privacy, which made my bid for condom-sheathed intercourse fly out the window, and so getting between her legs for cunnilingus was also very iffy. Our first experience with male orgasm denial was obtained over a very similar set of circumstances, which I have blogged about before. In fact, what happened this week was virtually identical to that fateful trip many years ago. I fingered my Queen (twice) to very powerful orgasms. She came hard, without any electronic means...just my male ego drive to satisfy my Queen sexually.

She briefly stoked my hard cock as she approached her climax, but that was all the sex I got. She certainly lead me to believe that I would get some pussy action tonight, our first night back at our home. I gave her some great foreplay, working her up. She allowed me to suck her nipples, which usually gets her in the mood for an orgasm, really quickly. She even said verbally that she wanted my cock inside her. I used the hitachi magic wand as she squeezed a testicle (this is a common practice for us, she either squeezes my cock or my scrotum hard during her orgasm....this was different in that she concentrated her pressure on a single testicle, which was a little more intense than normal) hard during her climax. She "basked" in her orgasm and gently caressed my perineum and anal felt great, especially since she had not stimulated that area for a long time. She stopped and said it was time for bed. I "pleaded my case", but it was clear that she had made up her mind that she didn't want me to come tonight. I was really surprised she decided to deny me because she lead me on so strong and, apart from cock and ball torture, she hadn't really been all that dominant in our sex play of late. So, I am mind-numbingly horny, trying to get a little caught up on female dominant blogs and such, and wondering what it means for our FLR.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Another sex instruction post

The fantasy I posted about last time was related to having sexual instruction in front of other women.  This reminded me of a funny scene in Monty Python's Meaning of Life.  I probably first saw this when I was around 12 or so, and I remember thinking it was hilarious and also arousing.  While this is not expressly female dominant or male submissive, it is very voyeuristic.  In it, John Cleese is a stuffy high school professor at a boys' school and he realizes that he has to teach them about sex ed that day.  I won't give away the rest (for the unitiated), but hilarity ensues:

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I think this clip is hilarious.  First of all, I love how matter-of fact the couple is about having sex in front of twenty horny boys.  I love how he will interupt his session with his wife to scold and discipline his students.  I find it funny that he had discussed foreplay last week, quized them on various methods to prepare the woman for sex, but really doesn't need it for himself (kind of like the Chuck Norris jokes, lol).
Truth be told, while I am submissive, I would very much like to act out this scenario: have sex with Queen Suzy in front of others.  This comes up in a number of sex fantasies I have had, some of which I hope to recount in future posts.  "This is for your benefit, will you kindly wake up.  I have no intention of going through this again." =)

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Medical fantasy

When I was in graduate school, I read an article in the student newspaper about a guy who could reasonably claim that he had the most thoroughly examined prostate in the world.  He "volunteered" (maybe he was paid?) to train medical students in how to conduct prostate exams.  He had submitted to prostate exams thousands of times.  At least he would know quickly if anything went awry down there.

As a result of this article, I had developed a fantasy of being a test subject in a medical setting.  I came across this illustration, which reminded me of this fantasy:

We will start our reproductive lesson on the more primitive sex, the human
male.  You may be surprised at the simplicity of the male system, but with
simplicity comes ease of control and treatment.  We will then move to the
higher order female reproductive system next week.

My version was that my wife was a medical professor that was instructing female students to learn more about male anatomy and sexual response.  As a frequent reader of health related articles, I have heard it said that doctors do not get a lot of specific training in human sexuality.  Clearly, at this medical school that was not the case.

In the fantasy, I am nude, completely shaved (for easier visuals) and only my genital area is exposed to the students.  I am to remain silent while I am donating my genitals to medical knowledge.  In this way, I am basically just a functioning male dummy for the female student's benefit.

The instructor (my Queen) begins a lecture about male sexuality, in a slightly demeaning tone.... not as related to being a human but more animalistic.  The 'nuts' and 'bolts' of the structure and function of the male genitals and various problems that may arise.  The instructor believes in "hands on" training and she begins by showing her students how the penis becomes erect and how the balls react to temperature changes (by the use of ice and warm towels).  I am reduced to a pure guinea pig, just a functioning cock and balls.  The professor alternates between examination methods and providing sexual stimulation; as I become aroused, she points out to her students the physical signs of male sexual response: my involuntary moans and arching of my pelvis, the retraction of my balls as climax nears, etc.

She deliberately brings me close to orgasm and then "goes medical" by stopping and giving further instruction.  She then begins to solicit her students to take part in the exam.  She mentions to a student, "the prostate engorges during sexual arousal.  Why don't you see for yourself how this male's prostate feels compared to our subject yesterday that was not in the aroused state".  As the professor is stroking my cock to maintain my arousal, the student lubes her gloved hand and examines my prostate.

"Yes, this is definitely a larger prostate than what we saw yesterday.  It feels 'full' to me", the young student says.

The professor continues, "Well, this male has not released semen in some time.  I can't afford to allow a climax because, as you may have read in Chapter 9, once a full male orgasm occurs, his body will enter a refractory period where he will not be able to become erect for a period of time.  That would not work for me, since I need this male to perform for four more classes in male sexuality today.

One of the students giggles, "Wow, it sure is nice being able to keep going and going, unlike a male!

Another question came: "What would you do if he accidentally climaxed?  Do you have another male subject for the other classes?".

"Good question", the professor continues.  "As you have correctly surmised, male sexuality is more primitive than our own superior female sexuality.  I can tell when this subject is getting close to orgasm, from - as we saw before - the movement of the testicles closer to the body and the movement of the pelvis and the verbal moans you heard.  You can further reduce orgasm by firmly pulling down on the scrotum.  Let me demonstrate.  This is a natural orgasm delay mechanism in the male.  You can further just stop all stimulation and alternate with the scrotum pulling technique." 

"Professor", a student continued, "what is the effect of prolonged stimulation without release?  I had a boyfriend that mentioned something about painful 'blue balls'.

"Another good question", the professor replied.  "This is often a ploy by the male to allow further progression to full climax.  This is in fact a medical condition, known as epididymal hypertension, caused by the increased blood flow to the male genital region that results in vascular congestion of the genitalia.  It is a bit painful, but nothing to be worried about.  Tell your male patients to 'suck it up'.  This specimen has not climaxed in ten days, yet has had probably 50 encounters of near-orgasm just as he has experienced today.  He deserves our appreciation for the use of his cock - err - penis.  Please thank him for the use of his body on the way out". 

The professor turns to her teaching assistant and says, "I suspect that he has a full bladder by now, but I don't want him to get up - he will be overly distracted at this point.  Vicky, can you please administer a catheter and eliminate his bladder so he can perform for the next class?"
As the students leave the class, they lift up the towel covering my upper torso and tease me by sarcastically pinching my cheek and nipple, saying things like "thanks for letting us use your cock", "I bet you are going to have a major case of epididymal hypertension tonight; good luck with that", "take two aspirin; you'll need it for tomorrow", and "nice sack".
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CFNM); cock and ball torture, orgasm denial, restraint, mild humiliation, and exhibition.  A lot of my sexual fantasies revolve around me being "a male" instead of a man, lover, husband, etc.  Animalistic.  I am very turned on by my Queen being the "trainer", controlling my sexuality and making into a docile animal to her amusement and pleasure.  I have discussed this particular fantasy with her but we have not acted it out.  I hope you enjoyed =)

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Chastity Device Review

I love it when Suzy teases me with the key
to my "heart", lol

I am the first person to recognize that many of my desires around submission are illogical and contradictory; probably no topic more so than the use of a male chastity device.  This causes some consternation for me, since I am ordinarily a very logical person.

There appears to be an ongoing 'debate' in the femdom world around the merits of using a chastity device vs. the 'honor system'.  Suzy has been pretty clear that she prefers the honor system.  I believe there are two reasons for this:
  • She recognizes that it's more difficult for me to keep chaste without the device and she enjoys it for that reason.  She like the self-discipline that I must have.  Why is it easier for me?  If I am locked during a lovemaking session, I really can only focus on Suzy's sexual pleasure.  If the session ends with her withholding the key, I know that I can't wake up and jerk off; I just have to go to sleep.  The cage has a finality to it.
  • Suzy does NOT like the hard plastic of the CB-6000 against her when we cuddle.  There are chastity devices that have a softer cage to it, and I would be interested in trying out one of these to see if that increases her interest in male chastity.  One is called a Birdlocked and I read a blog where the husband switched from the CB-6000 so that the wife could enjoy cuddling more.  I can't seem to find this particular blog, unfortunately.
I am curious if Suzy would want to explore the
Birdlocked male chastity device; it is squishy
so maybe cuddling while locked would be enjoyable for her

Being a keyholder to a locked male sub requires creativity,
constant teasing, and some empathy for the chaste slave

I must confess to Suzy that I enjoy playing with the chastity device.  From my submissive husband standpoint here are the pros of locking me up:
  • It is VERY kinky.  Surrendering control, not only of my orgasms, but my erections is very erotic.
  • I enjoy being tied up.  I think ultimately, the use of a chastity device is similar to, and a little hotter than, the enjoyment I get from our bondage play.
  • Chastity play offers many opportunities for teasing, which I crave.  I love the feeling of trying to get an erection and being unable to get completely hard, and having the skin of my cock bulge out of the CB-6000 openings.  I love it when Suzy plays with my exposed balls while my cock struggles to become erect.  The device forces my testicles to become more exposed than they are normally and therefore Suzy's tortures of my nuts are taken up several notches.
  • The symbolism of the key, and Suzy's control of it and consequently my cock is erotic.  Some of the hottest pillow talk Suzy had said has to do with her coyness around the key and whether or not it will be used to unlock my penis prison.
  • I enjoy my focus on Suzy's pleasure when I am locked.  It is a deeply erotic experience to devote my entire sexual energy to Suzy's pleasure.  It is akin to the blinders that they put on horses.  Sometimes my desire to ejaculate gets in the way of my full devotion to Suzy's pleasure.
  • Many men complain about sleeping in the device, but I have never really had any trouble with that.  I do wake up with "attempted morning wood" but I don't find it painful; rather it is actually pleasant in the sense that I enjoy *attempting* to get erect, it reinforces that I am a male with lots of testosterone and I am unashamed about my sensual desires.  Plus, my morning wood pee is the easiest pee of the day since I fill out the cage and my urethra lines up nicely with the hole.  Funny, morning wood used to be a bitch to pee.  Oh, the irony!
Teasing is key to a successful lockup

That being said, there are some 'issues' I have with the chastity device:
  • I seem to be in the minority of men in that I find it far easier to urinate - errrr in a sanitary manner - standing up than sitting down.
  • I have no interest in being locked up for an extended period of time.  There are some men who describe a lifestyle where that are pretty much always locked.  That doesn't appeal to me.  Further, being locked when I am at work is kind of a nuisance.  I have a fairly small bladder, so I have to go to the restroom fairly frequently and I am a bit scared that I might have some sort of accident.  I don't think of sex that often when I am at work, and I get most of my satisfaction of being locked during sex playtime.  Work isn't sexy for me.
  • Working out is difficult.  I typically am nude for brief periods of time when I am changing in the gym.  I don't want to risk being found out.  What I end of doing is going to a bathroom, taking my thong off (I am normally a boxer guy, but I have found it far easier to urinate with thongs, so I always wear them when locked) and putting my jockstrap on.  Then, I change as normal and nobody can see my cage through the jock.
  • Showering is probably the most difficult, not so much because it is difficult to clean but it is difficult to properly dry and lube my cock following a shower.
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To summarize, I enjoy the lockup experience when we are playing, my wife is teasing me and acknowledging my preDICKament, and enjoying herself sexually.  All in all, it is probably a bit of work for her to keep me happily locked.  Keeping me locked during worktime more falls into the "torture" or "punishment" realm than erotic sex play.  Something for Suzy to keep in mind.
    That being said, I do have have the following chastity fantasies:
    • I think it would be fun to play with chastity a little more.  There was a stretch when Suzy would have a girls night out (usually on Thursdays) and I would be locked for playtime when she got back.  I miss that.  She didn't always unlock me and I had a few long locked up weekends.  Hot.
    • While I don't fancy myself as a long term wearer, having her push my limits is arousing.  The last time we played with chastity was my record, a week.  It is fun and exciting to push the limits of my submission.
    • The "moral dilemma" posed by us both wanting me locked but her forcing me to lock in front of her is just hot.  That's what she did last time we played with the device.  I had to lockup while she was taunting me.  I was rock hard but finally got it in so that she could snap the lock.
    • I would love for her to put the device on, 100% by herself.  I am sure she would pinch the hell out of my bits.  But for her to take charge like that would turn me on immensely.
    • I am turned on by the idea of having to be locked during her period, to share the pain so to speak.  Of course, she could still have as many orgasms as she likes.