Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Suzy's Choice: A chaste hubby

The end of my 2010 work responsibilities and the end of Suzy's period dovetailed nicely together.  That is to say, after a fairly intense last week of work concluded, her pussy was ready for action.  Suzy had a choice: for the week I had off work, we could have a honeymoon-like sex fest or she could deny me orgasm.  She chose the latter.  I have a hard time focusing at work when I am being teased and denied.  I guess Suzy chose this as an opportune time to push my limits.

I have been orgasm-free for a week now, with three more days to go.  When we first started out with trying male orgasm denial, I kept track of our orgasms in a spreadsheet (I'm kind of a nerd).  Over a several month period, she had about 4 orgasms per every one I had.  I think we've had two streaks where she had seven consecutive orgasms and then I got one.  I have lost track of how many she's had during this denial period, but my guess is she's had 5 so far.  I think it would be fun to round it off to ten ~ 5 in three days is definitely doable.  She is going to allow me to come on the 1st, and I presume that means shortly after midnight, but she hasn't really said much about her plans.

She has teased me most days of this denial period.  Last night didn't seem to include any sex play, but she surprised me by coming to bed in a sexy outfit.  I was mostly asleep at this point, but I sensed she wanted some passionate action and woke up and took my clothes off almost instantly.  We kissed with lust and she told me she wanted my cock in her.  She gave me some great foreplay with her hands, and I was rock hard and ready to penetrate her.  I got out her hand held vibrator and figured that I should give her a head start before insertion.  She made it clear that she did not want me to come and that I needed to have the discipline to hold off until she climaxed.  Her pussy was so wet and inviting by the time I inserted.  She directed me how I was to penetrate: slow and deep, she said several times.  She came pretty quickly and it seemed like an intense orgasm, although we didn't really discuss it much.  Although she didn't say it explicitly, I almost sensed that she was thinking "good boy, you used our cock exactly the way I wanted it".

I withdrew my cock because I was fairly close to coming.  After a minute, I penetrated her again, mainly just to sense her wetness and maintain my erection for a little bit longer.  She warned me not to come and then I withdrew it and caressed her body.  She allowed me to sleep nude and we cuddled all night and all morning.  Awesome!

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I am going bonkers with horniness.  I don't think I can handle this during a normal work schedule.  I'm sure I've been without orgasm for a week and a half before, but not with this intense teasing.  I really like the affection and the playfulness that Suzy is giving in this sex play.  For me, the most intense submissive tease and denial feelings - by far - come from when she has allowed me to penetrate her and then either she tells me to stop or she tells me that I must not ejaculate.  Getting her juices all over my cock and being just seconds from dropping my load deep inside her is very intense.  I also really liked how she directed how I thrust in her.  Confidence is so very sexy.  Suzy seems to be really embracing her sexuality and asserting what she wants.  Hot stuff!

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Merry Christmas

I hope you have a blessed Christmas.  I have.

Let's see.... what did I receive from Suzy this year?  Blue Balls!

Suzy is currently on her period, and her monthly visitor should be gone any day now.  Normally, our sex play decreases markedly during her period.  Not this time!  We had some really hot play on Wednesday.  We did a lot of "sexting" leading up to it.  Hot texts really stoke the fires of passion with us.  At any event, she gave me a satisfying blowjob.  She has made it clear to me that I am not to ejaculate in her mouth (I don't want to know what manner of evil awaits me if I did) and oral sex is the most intense stimulation for me.  I didn't last very long and I told her I was about to blow.  She finished me off in an unusual way... she masturbated me with her breasts and as I was sailing to my orgasm, she started flicking my balls.  That added stimulation sent me over the edge.  We finished the session with the Hitachi Magic Wand giving her clit stimulation through her pad.  What was really noteworthy about this session is how she directed the activities.  I caressed her breasts a lot, more than I would have done so on my own.  She just wanted that stimulation and it was really doing it for her.  I would have pulled away much sooner to focus on her orgasm.  She really ran the show, sexually speaking, and it was hot.

Little did I know that was my last orgasm of 2010.  During a subsequent play session she hinted that I was going to be denied for the rest of the year.  That is 1.5 weeks!  Sure, I have been without orgasm that long probably a lot.  In fact, our last denial period was about the same length, although for about a week there was no sex at all.  This is shaping up to be a week and a half of tease and denial.

The first session was noteworthy in that she stated she just wanted to "cuddle".  The last time I got into trouble with our "FLR" was the same scenario.  Basically, I really wanted her to orgasm and she didn't want any sex play... and I didn't handle that conflict well.  This time, I accepted that she was in charge and just cuddled, working myself up a bit for an erection.  I think she has almost reached "fetish" status in that she loves to feel my erection against her.  One thing lead to another, and she seemed to change her mind about sex.  She let me play with her breasts and we kissed a lot.  She busted my balls rather harshly.  She came once with the vibe and then we called it a night, my erection against her as she fell asleep.

We had another sex session last night that involved some ball torture, "sling-shoting" my cock (I have a fairly steeply angled erection, and she pulls it back the other way towards my balls and lets go.. it snaps back fairly rigorously), and anal stimulation.  She spent a lot of time stimulating my anal area (anyone have a pleasant name for that???), which really felt great.  Then we enjoyed another female orgasm and went to bed.  She reiterated my orgasm denial period would last the rest of this year.
I have seen this posted on a few male chastity blogs... seems appropriate for us right now!

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I enjoy blogging and it seems to open up a pretty good communication channel between Suzy and myself.  Suzy did enjoy my "cleaning hunk" video and I suspect it will make its rounds amongst her ladies group.  She said she was close to making a comment on it but didn't.  I would like her to comment every once and a while or maybe made a guest post.  We shall see.

I am cognizant that I can be a little long winded sometimes and I do try to keep my posts short.  I'm just not always successful.  There have been a lot of things going on, and my mind is going bonkers on possible posting material.  Thanks for reading, and I hope you have a Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year!  Cheers!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Good clean fun (eye candy for Suzy)

Suzy and I regularly watch Desperate Housewives together.  It's a funny show even though some of the plot lines can be pretty outrageous.  It can be fairly sexy too, which we enjoy.  Sunday night is usually a "play" night and she expects me to rub her feet and back the entire show.  When we first started "playing" with FLR, she said she could not order me around.  However, our DH nights are as close as it gets.  She has no problem demanding that I make her a drink and I am expected to get down in feet rubbing position.  For a subhub, this is pretty exciting.

One of the storylines had involved Susan (Teri Hatcher) making some extra money by video "cleaning" in sexy lingerie.  She was making pretty good money at this but as with everything for her character, it all fell apart soon enough.  At any rate, a commenter on my blog pointed me towards this video of "The cleaning hunk".  This is a role reversal from Susan's character and I thought Suzy would get a kick out of it.


This short clip has a fair amount of my submissive fantasies wrapped in it:
  • It is close to a clothed female naked male (CFNM) situation; I am always naked and she often has some clothing on when we play.  As a matter of fact, she has specifically talked about me doing more things naked if we have the opportunity (which we might not, since we will have a full nest for quite some time).
  • The "hunk" is pretty much doing as she says.
  • I am aroused by Suzy looking at other men.  She went with a group of her lady friends for a few days in "sin city" and I was really turned on by the fact that she might go to a male strip club.  I sometimes fantasize about going to a strip club and paying for a lap dance.  I really wonder what her reaction would be if she had a stud waving his package around in her "lap".  Would she get aroused?  Would she be embarrassed?
  • I am not interested in wearing emasculating clothes, but the underwear the "hunk" wears is sexy and I enjoy wearing that sort of underwear when we are "playing".  I posted on underwear before, and my main deal are boxers but wearing something special as we play adds to my arousal.
 At any rate, I hope Suzy gets a laugh out of this clip.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Pushing my limits

We had a great day yesterday.  Suzy and I did a lot of flirting and "sexting" throughout the day.  I had mentioned that I hadn't cum since we had sex last Saturday and that I was super horny.  As we were prepping for dinner, she teased me quite a bit.  She then countered that it hadn't been that long, and that we had sex on Monday, so that it hadn't been a full week yet (darn, why does she always remember stuff that she can hold against me?).  She then started talking about denying me orgasm (in spite of or maybe because I kept telling her how horny I was), and I thought it was just teasing talk.  Boy was I wrong!

I massaged her back for about a half an hour while she was checking her various emails and facebook.  She seemed aroused by it and asked me to take her bra off and she let me play with her D-cup breasts quite a bit.  I don't always get free access like that, so I just went with it.  At one point, I stopped to brush my teeth (my motives were pure - I wanted to kiss her!) but she said, "where are you going... get back here and keep rubbing".  Wow.  I love that kind of dominance!  That was a harbinger for things to come!  Or not come, in my case!

We watched our weekly show and she received a foot rub and a back rub.  We went back up stairs and started our play time.  I was wearing an easily removable underwear (Velcro sides) and she had told me earlier I could get out some toys and suggest - but she was in no way obligated to perform - some play session.  I bought a couple of new toys from the local adult store, and was hoping to try them.  We hadn't had kinky sex in a while, so I was also hoping for that.  I was NOT disappointed.

She started out naked, and I caressed her.  She complained that my cock wasn't hard enough for her, so I rubbed it against her.  We kissed a lot, and she let me suck her nipples.  I don't always get nipple action, but when I do, she gets real horny real fast.  I got out the Hitachi Magic Wand and pressed it against her clit, and I fingered her G-spot.  She came pretty fast.  I guess she was horny from all the foreplay she received.

She then went on to stimulating me.  She started off slow, with some light ball slapping and teasing my cock.  We did a lot this session, so I am trying to be brief.  She asked me about denying me orgasm, if that was OK.  I said that it was up to her.  She seemed pretty intent on denial.  If it's one thing I'm learning, it's to better listen to her needs and go with it.  She could have changed her mind, but it sure seemed like ejaculation was not in the cards.
No cock stimulation, no male orgasms for submissive hubby!
She really dominated me.  What was different than normal was her laser-like focus on my balls.  She really didn't play with my cock that much.  I don't remember her jerking it at all, actually.  She just wanted to explore "ball busting" last night, and she was Magellan.  After a while, I asked her if I could give her a second orgasm.  She said it was ok, so I went with it.  What was pretty cool was that, even though I hadn't stimulated her much during the extensive ball-busting, her pussy was really wet.  Awesomely wet.  I inferred that meant that she was turned on by busting my nuts.  She said she was.
I told Suzy that it felt like she was treating my balls as a pinata.  Nothing came out last night, though!  LOL!
She had her second orgasm and it seemed the best of the session - there's more!  Ha! I messaged her a bit after her climax.  It was clear at this point that she didn't want me to come tonight.  I was turned on by the dominance and asked her why.  She indicated that she likes me to think about her and that she wanted more service from me.  I asked about using my CB-6000 chastity cage; If I wasn't going to come, I wanted some help.  I enjoy being "locked up" but she really prefers cock-discipline, and really really likes to see, feel and now that I am erect.  It doesn't appear that use of the chastity cage is in my future.  I suspect that when she goes to her friend's 40th B-day party this summer (she will be out of state), that she will want me locked to ensure I don't masturbate.  We'll see.

The real intense domination happened next.  I bought a "wheel" from the adult store (see photo) and I really wanted to try it... I had no idea what to expect.  She was cold, so she got her pajamas on (I was still naked and had my legs spread wide to accept the abuse of my balls) and said she would give it a try.  She used really light pressure at first.  Those spikes are pointy!!!  The skin on the cock shaft is very thin and it was definitely the most sensitive.  Even a light touch was pretty intense.  My scrotum and perineum areas were much thicker and she could "dig in" on those.  Thankfully, I had shaved my balls that morning.  She teased me that it made it easier to torture them.
The Wartenburg Wheel.  Used to test nerve responses by health care workers; used by Suzy to torture my balls
She did a ton of ball torture.  She would alternate the wheel with pretty sharp ball slaps.  It was intense.  One thing I enjoy as a sub is not knowing what type of stimulation, where, and when it is coming.  It really kicks the intensity up a notch.  After playing with the wheel, she dominated me by doing a double ball slap.  She would lightly crush my balls by slapping up with one hand and down with the other.  It was freaking intense!  That is probably the most pain she has dealt me.  I was yelping a bit, to the extent that she said she needed to gag me.  Fortunately, I have a gag and it has been a longtime fantasy to allow her to, with minimal feedback from me, to just judge for herself what kind of pain I can take.  She didn't allow me to do that, but said possibly tonight because she didn't want to hear my complaining.  I know, there is a dogma around using "safe words" but I don't think she will go too far and I am pretty sure I can handle it... we ARE married after all.  She has an interest in keeping my genitals healthy for the next beating.

It is pretty hot when after receiving two orgasms herself, and basically just man-handling my balls with little cock stimulation when my wife says "we're almost done here".  I asked her if she would let me give her a third orgasm, and much to my delight, she did.  She almost always stops at 2.  I wonder why she allowed it.  Was it that the last ball busting session had turned her on enough for her to want to come again?  Not sure, but I really like her climaxes!  I think one of the more submissive parts of a session are when the subhub gets out the instruments of torture and then at the end when he puts them away, with the unresolved horniness from the session.  She indicated how much she enjoyed the play and that it's possible we could do it again tonight.  I realize this is a long post, but a lot happened last night!
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Found this quote from what I regard as a pretty good sex book.  It resonates with me:

"People who enjoy light bondage enjoy being rendered passive.  They have no choice but to enjoy what a partner is doing to them.  They don't have to worry about being a "good" partner who provides pleasure in return.  Performance anxiety is virtually eliminated.  This can especially appeal to someone who has to be in charge and in control the rest of the time."

"Guide to Getting it on!", 2007 edition, pages 498-499

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Discussion about a threesome (MMF)

At our date night a couple of weeks ago, Suzy asked me about my fantasy of her sleeping with another man.  I first read about "cuckolding" in some of the female dominant websites and it arouses me a lot.  I sent her an email about this (very freeing to be honest with her, as there was a period of time when I would just hold that sort of thing in) and we discussed it briefly once before.  She apparently read a blog about a couple going through the process of selecting a "boyfriend" for the wife.  I was caught by her tone.  She had a smile when she talked about it.  I could be wrong about this, but I interpreted her tone as being kind of excited about the prospect but embarrassed and nervous too - kind of like when a parent asks you if you want something extravagant for a present and you really do want it but you think that by virtue of claiming that as a desire, you are being selfish and irresponsible.  Anyway, that's how I interpreted her tone.
Suzy is not OK with a FMF threesome; she seems intrigued with adding another man to the mix
We talked about it for a bit, she asked why I wouldn't get jealous if another man slept with her.  I don't think I could handle her "going on a date" alone with another man; rather, I would like to be present and participate.  It would be up to her if I would penetrate her or orgasm - but she definitely would!  When I fantasize about this, I think of me as being an assistant to the sex between my wife and the "friend with benefits".  I go down on her, and basically do all the foreplay while she plays with a foreign cock, and as I am exciting her orally, she places a condom on the dick and says something like "ok, I'm ready for him to fuck me now".  As he penetrates her and I move to stimulating her breasts, kissing her, maybe even fingering her clit.  Perhaps after the male orgasm, I would go and get them a drink and then massage Suzy while she is in post-orgasmic bliss.

A MMF threesome would be all about Suzy's pleasure
She asked what if she "falls in love" with this partner.  That would scare the crap out of me, frankly.  But, in my mind's eye, we would choose someone with a minimal possibility of that.  I envision this being a college student, which would amount to the "stud" being nearly half her age.  Perhaps a different ethnicity and a bigger cock than mine.  It would excite me to see her exploring another penis.  I would imagine she would feel a surge of female power in knowing that she was the source of arousal for two men.  She feels that way with my erections, let alone a "young stud"simultaneously.  I would love to watch Suzy having sex.  I witness her orgasms frequently, but when I am penetrating her, I usually only get one view and I have never actually seen myself ejaculate.  I usually have my eyes closed.
Don't get me wrong, I realize the many pitfalls that could occur.  This seems like it's "just a fantasy" and she's teased me verbally about it during sex sessions.

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We have not done anything sexual in a week.  As the saying goes, "life gets in the way" sometimes and we've still had some lingering conflicts to resolve.  I have been a good sub and not masturbated, and I haven't had a good solid erection since our last session.  As I said in a prior post, that actually causes some amount of depression.  Even thought I crave to be dominated and (occasionally) denied, I believe I need the sexual play to feel fulfilled.  I know a week doesn't sound like much, but it's been agony for me.  I was going to lock myself up over the weekend (there was a low likelihood of sex Friday and Saturday anyway), but I really didn't get a sense that Suzy was all that interested in being a "keyholder".

Partly because of our lack of play, I had a lot of fantasies about picking her "stud" for play.  I will probably email it to her and see what feedback she has.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Doctor Denial

Our relationship has been mostly on the upswing lately.  There is a fair amount of complication.  To recap: my wife has stated that she does not want to "take the lead anymore".  I don't know exactly what that means.  I have really enjoyed her being "in charge" in the bedroom.  Here and there, she has alluded to various activities we did that were related to her being in charge.  She has demanded that I give her foot massages; she suggested that if I could not prevent masturbating, that I should lock up in my chastity cage; she has made references to our first "chastity game" with dice; and she has discussed openly that she should spank me.  Very arousing for a submissive husband!

Our sex activity lately has been pretty non-kinky.  Mainly using a vibe on her for an orgasm, and then missionary sex.  Unfortunately, no multiple O's for her; she just doesn't seem that interested.

I have not performed cunnilingus on my wife in a really really long time.  Oral sex is my favorite sex act.  I give a lot more than I receive.  I never feel more virile and manly than when I bring her to orgasm orally.  No batteries, or toys.  Just a man and his tongue making love to her clitoris while she lays back and enjoys.  Awesome.

She has not shaved her pubes in a while; she has quite a bush right now.  I have a difficult time going down on her when she isn't at least trimmed.  I got up the nerve to ask her about it, and she said that she has a doctor appointment this week, and that she wanted to "let it go".  She also was clear that for her pussy exam, she did not want the health care provider examining any remnants of my seed.  Yes, I am being denied sex for the sake of her doctor!  What a bummer!  That's not sexy denial, that's denial for the sake of someone else.  Boo!
Pubic hair is not fun while going down...
I realize that I can't change her mind on this.  Hopefully, I will get a nice trimmed or shaved pussy to dive into shortly after the appointment is over.  I can't wait...
What a bummer!  Pubic hair style is based on not looking "abnormal" for the doctor!

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Fun Date Night; good talk, sleeping (almost) nude, and 2 Big O's for her

Our date night went really well.  We went to a restaurant we hadn't been to before and had pretty good timing for the movie we wanted to watch.  We did not make it to the adult toy store.

We had pretty good service.  We typically go to family friendly restaurants and the service isn't always that good.  So that was a nice change of pace.

At any rate, when we got home, we discussed that I would walk around and sleep nude.  She seemed interested in the idea and said that she would go topless, but that I had to keep her warm.  She would have gone fully nude too, but she is still on her period and she chose to wore tight fitting bicycle pants.  They were still pretty sexy.  My wife's breasts are very temperamental.  They are often "too sensitive" and she doesn't always let me play with them.  She did last night.  I massaged her and then she was open to me using the vibrator on her.  She had a powerful orgasm.  I massaged her some more and then she allowed me to use the vibrator a second time.  It was also very powerful.
Suzy wore tight fitting bike shorts to bed...very sexy
She said that she would "take care of me" but I didn't think she really meant it.  She was tired and just fell asleep.  Even though it was exciting to me to watch her have two powerful orgasms, I didn't consider this a true tease and denial.  She can 'actively' deny me or 'passively deny me.  An active denial is when she teases me verbally and/or physically (this is what I prefer).  She teases me by saying how powerful her orgasms were and that it is too bad that she is not allowing me to have one.  She stimulates me either by getting me close to an orgasm or by torturing my balls.  Passive denial is when she accepts the pleasure of an orgasm, but doesn't really say much or touch me substantially, and then she just drifts asleep... kind of like she is too tired to bother with me.  While I do prefer this to a sexless night, I really do enjoy the teasing.  It's kind of a bummer when she doesn't actively deny me.
The Hitachi Magic Wand

We touched a little on our issues we were having.  Essentially, she believes I have anger issues and I am going to see a psychologist today (my first appointment) to see if I can reduce my yelling.  The deal we made was that she and I would create a list of areas we want the other to change and we would work on that.  I am frightened to do this because I have a tendency to be pretty blunt and I am afraid that I will put her too much on the defensive.  I agreed to put something together, most likely today.

During dinner, we did have an interesting discussion on my fantasy of bringing another male into our bedroom play.  It was quite an exciting topic and I got several erections as we spoke about it.  We have had two discussions on this topic now.  Even though it was not a lengthy discussion, it was pretty fruitful in terms of analyzing her thoughts on the topic... and so I have decided to push that off to a subsequent post.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Screwed up

Suzy and I exchanged sexy texts since the day she denied me.  Several times during the day she asked if I was still frustrated and she seemed happy with my affirmative responses.  I told her that I was looking forward to playing again, and that it was up to her if I orgasm.  She pretty much said that I was not going to, but it wasn't really that clear as to whether she would tease me, allow me to give her an orgasm, or what.  She even sent me an IM saying she was thinking about having me locked in the chastity cage (!).

When the "moment of truth" was near, I lit a candle (I've always liked candles), locked the door, stripped naked and got under the bed while she was doing her bed routine in the bathroom.  She came out in her flannel PJs and basically wanted to just cuddle and go to bed.  She blew out the candle, unlocked the door, and slipped into bed.  I tried to kiss her and I rubbed my erection on her (which she likes, except for when I have pre-cum).  I was OK with her denying me orgasm, but I really wanted her to come.  There are times when my desire for her to climax approaches an obsession - even more powerful than my desire for my own sexual release before our female dominant play started.  She just wanted to go to bed and feel my frustration intensify.  I tried to persuade her a few times but she did not want any sex play.

I really didn't handle this well.

While I am submissive, I really don't like to be shot down or disrespected.  Sometimes she will put me down, and I really don't go for that (although I know there are a number of submissive men that do).  I have a number of paradoxes to be sure, but this aspect is one area that I am not that open to.  In retrospect, I felt like she was putting me down and not really acknowledging me (and the sexual frustration that I was going through).  I did not react well, and we had a bit of a fight.  Which could have just ended the matters, with me being frustrated sexually and that's that.

But I screwed up.  We ended up talking and having a rather nasty fight.  There are some relationship stuff that haven't been worked out and that just boiled to the surface when things escalated.

I really am sorry for my reaction.

Trying to humbly apologize for my transgression
One of her subsequent emails said that she is done with the woman lead marriage thing.  We haven't really spoken a lot about that, but that really bums me out.  I really *feel* that is what I need and want.  I think she enjoys it too.  I screwed up by not accepting her decision.  I hope that we can revisit this again.

As it stands, we are going out on a date night tonight.  I have no expectations about anything sexual happening.  I really just hope that we have fun.  I don't really even want to talk about our "issues".  We are in a very very rare circumstance where the kids have sleepovers and we will actually be alone tonight.  Had my screw up not occurred, I would pretty much guarantee that some wild kinky stuff would happen.  We have a number of sex toys what we haven't tried yet.  The one good thing is that we are going to have a dinner AND a movie, and Suzy seemed to be ok with stopping in at the adult bookstore (it is kind of on the way back home, although I am not sure when it might close).  Perhaps she will find a paddle to whip my ass?

The power exchange in the female lead marriage dynamic is very fun for me as a sub hub.
At any rate, I screwed up on several levels.  It's clear that we need to resolve some of the issues that we have.  But I am hoping that I can get her to understand that I want to keep trying the FLR (female lead relationship) dynamic.  I am not sure what I might need to do to convince her of that.  Our sex life has never been better.

So, any feedback on how to get back into the groove would be helpful!

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Access Denied

Suzy announced that she had her "monthly visitor" and that she was "out of commision".  This was a litle earlier than I expected.  My first thought was that it had been a LONG time since I had performed cunnilingus on her and it was going to be a bit longer still.  I suggested that we still "play" tonight and she was coy about that.

We watched our weekly show - Desperate Housewives - in our usual manner.  She sat in a chair and I laid at her feet, massaging them most of the show.  During one stretch, she stimulated my cock with her foot.  I was getting pretty aroused and then she stopped and did not continue (althought I continued massaging her feet).  After the show, I pleaded with her to come upstairs to play but she was once again evasive.

Still I feel the footfalls you’ve left on my soul…
I like this picture since it relates to Suzy's enjoyment of foot massage and the male is submissive to the female, naked and under her control

I went to bed and I must have woken up when she came in.  I was having some sort of sexual dream and I started rubbing against her and asked that we play.  She didn't seem interested but I was really horny.  I gently massaged her back and moved to her sides and then to her breasts.  She enjoyed that and I think I was arousing her.  She said that we could play and that I should go lock our bedroom door.  As I was coming back, I took my clothes off and she positioned herself to play with my cock.  Her stimulation was very much like the last time we played.  She jerked my cock and then moved to my balls for some rough ball play.  I told her that it felt like she had total control of my body - and that I loved it.  I was really in submissive heaven.  She was controlling the action and I wasn't trying to influence her actions ("topping from the bottom").  I was putty in her hands.

Forced orgasm.  How many times did he cum? He begged for it and now he’s begging for it to stop.
Suzy has the control!  And I love it!

She teased me in this way for a while.  She then leaned over to kiss me and said "that's all you're getting tonight.  As you would say, 'access denied'."  I was speachless.  She indicated that she wanted to climax, so I quickly got out the Hitachi Magic Wand and awaited her orgasm.  She was clearly aroused and it didn't take long for her to have a long and intense climax.  I carressed her after she had come and she asked if I was frustrated.  I said yes and then she said "good".  I was shaking and she suggested that we might play again the next night.  Not sure what she has in mind, but I am looking forward to it!

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Some playtime

Fortunately, Suzy and I had some time to "play" on Friday night.  It started out with some overt "we'll see..." comments from her, which was driving me crazy since it had been a while.

I was naked waiting for her to come out of the bathroom.  My cock got hard with the kissing and such and she started playing with my erection.  It felt SO GOOD to be hard in her presence. I loved it.  There is just something about the vulnerability of being naked and visibly aroused, and her obviously being the source of my excitement.  If I were a woman, I would think that to be the ultimate compliment.

Anyway, we played for a while.  I tried to stimulate her and she seemed to enjoy playing with my cock.  I wasn't sure what she had in mind.  I suggested that she have an orgasm and she didn't seem that interested at first.  One funny "blooper" moment involved my pubic hair getting caught in her engagement ring.  You have to keep a sense of humor about those sorts of things.  It worked out, and after a while, I got the Hitachi Magic Wand out and she came.  It was nice to see her orgasm, since it had been a while.  I got on top of her and wanted to kiss her and she pretty much told me to get off her - she didn't appreciate the "poke" of my erection against her while she was basking in her post orgasm bliss.

I wasn't sure what would happen next.  I fell pretty affectionate with her after she has orgasmed.  I stimulated her (we call it "spider legs' - when you just barely touch the skin - and she likes it the most in her armpits and arms, along her sides and breasts).  We did some kissing and then she started playing with my cock.  I was so hard and so horny at that point.

What followed was a delicious mix of pleasure and pain.  She knows my sexual response pretty well by now, and she can tell when I am getting close to orgasm.  Every time that she sensed I was close to orgasm, she stopped stimulating my cock and got rough with my balls.   The ball torture consisted of either ball slapping or ball squeezing.  I am pretty used to the ball slapping, and kind of crave it.  The squeezing she did felt like she was separating my balls.  She really slowly squeezed my scrotum from my cock down and it felt so tight.  I really liked it.  It felt like she just "manhandled" me.  My submissive nature clearly showed, since I just positioned myself so that she could reach my manhood easier.

She did this a number of times.  I must have been erect for over a half hour.  I have a theory that my orgasms increase in intensity the longer I am erect.  At any rate, she cycled through getting me close to coming and then adding the brakes to my response by torturing my nuts - several times.  At certain points, I could only just moan.  She didn't say much during this session, and after a while she sat up and used both hands: one on my cock and the other slapping my balls.  I could tell that she was going to slap until I came, and I did come.  It was a long orgasm, with a slight delay in the peak.  I think the first few spurts dribbled out and then I launched some semen to my neck, and onto one of our pillows.  She was not happy about that.  At any rate, it was a great orgasm.  I was unable to move for a while.  Time stood still.  She took the vibe out for a second orgasm and it sure didn't seem like it took her long.  I guess she was excited by her dominant act.

I think she has him right where she wants him.
I think he is happy with this arrangement.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Cock and Ball Torture

I don't have iron balls or anything, I can collapse into the fetal position if my child whacks me in the nuts.  But when I am sexually aroused, my family jewels can take a lot of abuse.  And Suzy seems to enjoy this and that's a-ok with me.

One time during our dating period, we were walking around Suzy's hometown in a semi-public place.  I asked her to reach into my pants and squeeze my balls.  For some reason, I wanted her to squeeze them harder and harder.  She was getting a little nervous that she was going to hurt me but I kept wanting her to try a little bit further.

During our exploration of female domination/male submission, Suzy started playing with with slapping my balls.  In a particularly erotic session, she declared that she was going to jack me off to orgasm but that she was going to slap my balls harder and harder until I ejaculated.  She meant what she said.  For some reason, I had some extra endurance that day, and she was really quite rough on my nuts.  It was seriously hurting me and I wanted to come so bad to stop the pain.  I would tell her that she was hurting me, and she would say things like "ah, I'm not hitting them that hard"; "come on, take it like a man"; "I'm going to really starting hitting harder if you keep complaining like that".  I was in submissive heaven with that verbal teasing that went along with the physical stimulation.  She controlled the intensity of the play completely.  I finally did climax and it felt like a big relief that the ball torture stopped.  But the thrill of being controlled was incredible.  I love it.  I loved how it was something she decided to try and did it, without really asking me.  I don't believe, apart from that initial experience in Suzy's hometown, that i had asked her to torture my balls.  But, perhaps paradoxically, I am glad she does.  It seems to be her kink, and I am glad that she wants to explore this in our sex play.

Ball torture is pretty common for us now.  If we are having intercourse, she can reach around and swat my scrotum or sometimes I get some sort of implement like a whip.  Other times, it's a small part of foreplay and then we move on to something else.  She often will include ball torture when she denies me orgasm.  This can be particularly hot for me as a subhub.  I remember a session when I spent a lot of time massaging her and then giving her all the female orgasms she wanted.  She started a pretty intense ball torture session which lasted quite some time.  She stopped and then told me that was all for now and it was time to go to bed.  I rather sheepishly whipped the pre-cum from my erect dick, put on my pajamas and cuddled her.  The contrast put me in "subspace".  I massaged her for maybe an hour and brought her to two orgasms, and she whacked my nuts, denied me an orgasm and then told me to go to bed.

She doesn't do a lot of cock torture.  She likes me to be erect and she will often regenerate my erection if it subsides during her torture session.  But she focuses most of her attention on my balls.  One things we've tried with cock torture is for her to take my erection and bend it down and let it go like a rubber band.  Sometimes during our play she will whip my dick and my balls.

This may not sound appealing to some men.  I don't doubt that:
  • She loves me
  • She does not want to physically hurt me.
  • Her exploration of cock and ball torture is something she wants to explore, not something I have begged and pleaded for.
  • If I sincerely was in pain, she would recognize it herself and slow down.
  • She seems to have a pretty good handle on my thresholds.  She knows that once I make a certain comment or a certain moan, she can push it a little bit harder.  She seems to like to push my limits, which I really like because she is in control.
  • Cock and ball torture has increased our intimacy.
 When you read about S&M play, they emphasize the importance of a "safe word".  We don't have one.  One of my recurring sex fantasies is that she ties me down with a  ball gag so I cannot speak and she tortures me.  I would have no way of communicating if I was in too much pain; rather, she decides what I can handle.

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I have asked Suzy about why she enjoys cock and ball torture (CBT) so much.  She loves the control over me and the power that it gives her.  I lift weights 3x per week and can get up and leave if I wanted to.  But I don't.  In fact, I usually will reposition myself to make the CBT easier for her.  I wouldn't want her to strain her arm torturing my nuts.  How perfect is that - I love submitting and she loves domination!

What do I get out of it?  I like her controlling me.  I like the unpredictability of what she will do, how long and how hard she will push it.  The pleasure I get from CBT is more psychological than physical.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Hung Like a Horse

Hung Like a Horse!
We have had a bit of a rough patch lately (what couple doesn't?) and things have been "on hold" for a little while.  I think it's important to still keep your sense of humor.  I was taking a child to a party the other day, through an adjacent town that I seldom visit.  It's a rural area and there were a fair amount of horses.  I was minding my own business and happened to see that one of the horses had an erection.  It didn't seem like it was about to mount a female horse... so I assumed that it was "morning wood".  It struck me how freaking huge it was - almost 2 feet long.  It was really hard NOT to notice.  I sent a text to Suzy about it, saying that I felt so inadequate after seeing that.  This became a bit of a recurring joke throughout our day.  Since we have not been sexual in a while, I'm really quite horny.  I had been getting a lot of (partial) erections throughout the day, mainly thinking about our recent sex times and things I'd like to blog about.  She would text me things like "wow, you are deprived if you are looking at horse cock".  Another time, she said something like "wow, that's big... like horse big" when referring to something totally nonsexual, as a soft tease on my  prior observation.

I enjoy being teased like that.  Teasing can have a lot of different forms: verbal teasing, physical teasing and visual teasing.  When we were dating, she used to physically tease me a lot.  She would be just barely brush my genitals and I would be so frustrated.  It drove me insane.  In playing out my more submissive side in our sexual relationship, I have found that I rather enjoy her teasing me in a way that so frustrated me earlier.  I supposed that a lot of things depend on your perspective.  When we were dating, I wanted sexual release in a bad way.  Perhaps I was at my "sexual prime" and just an overall horndog.  Now, I am less focused on getting a sexual release than I am in her control over me.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Female Underwear

Not particularly sexy female underwear

My Suzy will sometimes belittle the importance of lingerie by saying "what's the point - it's just going to come off".  There is a big point.  Don't get me wrong, I love it when she emerges into our bedchamber in the nude.  It is awesome.  It's like she's saying "I want to get it on, NOW!".  That kind of sexual confidence is appealing.  But let's face it.... usually, there is going to be a lot of massaging, kissing, caressing, and groping before the juices are flowing.  That's foreplay.  I'm a red-blooded dude.  I am visual.  I love seeing her in sexy outfits that accentuate her femininity.  As I had said in my previous post on men's underwear, it's sort of like having a present that is nicely wrapped.  It's a bit mysterious getting to the point of her intimate apparel and working her up to a crescendo of female foreplay and then finally taking it off and diving into the good stuff.

Here's your basic female underwear options:

Hmmmm, what to choose?
It's a big plus to have the bra and panties match.  Colors: white is usually not that sexy, but bright colors are.  I think I like purple and black the best.  I am definitely attracted to thongs.  They are super sexy.

I am not super big on bras.  As long as they show cleavage, they are alright by me.  My wife is well endowed and so they look great in pretty much anything.  I do think that jog bras are particularly sexy:

Let's get physical...

Bikinis should get a special mention since they they are a) awesome; b) similar to panties.  I'm sure to have a special post for the awesomeness of bikinis.  Years ago, Suzy had a "monokini".  It is purple and it has a similar shape as this:

What I really liked about it was that it was super sexy.  And that you could slip off the top part and play with her breasts very easily.  It is somewhat of an inside joke to us how terrible I am in undoing her bra!  In any case, it's the kind of "swimwear" that never saw water: which means it's "for me".  One thing I didn't like about it is how difficult it can be to take the bottom off to get to her pussy.  Once we've progressed with foreplay, and I want to stimulate her nether regions, it kind of disrupts the flow to undo it.  Which leads me to this:
Easy eject panties
I don't think Suzy has any of these types of underwear.  I would like to "unlatch" them for easy access.

I guess I've shown that I enjoy Suzy's feminine clothing.  The mo' feminine, the mo' better.  I love to caress her panties during foreplay and feel the labia as I'm trying to get her excited.  I love how she has no bulge.  Awesome.  I joke with her and call her pussy the most important bit of real estate in our family.  That's wear it all happens.  It is a work of art.

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One quick note: I am not interested in wearing women's clothes.  I have gathered that a fair amount of submissive men want to wear panties and such.  To each his own.  I don't have any strong feelings about that... it's just not for me.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Happy (Sexy) Halloween

"Insert Tab A into Slot B"
Halloween is a fun "holiday".  It always has a "naughty" connotation, whether it is from kids playing pranks to adults having "adult fun".  It's accepted - even encouraged - to be a bit risque, act a bit immature, over-consume alcohol, and "fool around" with your SO.  Most adult female costumes in the Halloween stores are super sexy.  A lot of the men's costumes are blatantly sexual.

Kind of an inside joke that I won't detail here, but my Suzy intentionally wore a very very conservative costume.  I still found her very sexy.  She has aquired a few costumes over the years, and she can make them sexy.  My fav, by far is her Catwoman costume.

Catwoman: A pussy with all kinds of power
I am pretty sure that she has been a sexy pirate before also.  I bet she has these costumes somewhere.  My favorite are the ones that wouldn't be seen by the general public.  We have talked about doing some more role playing.  We have already had the epic Catwoman vs. Batman battle (It's fair to say that Catwoman dominated Batman, but Batman loved every second of it!).  I would love to re-enact that scenario again!  Other fantasies we've shared:

Female doctor instructing female medical students on the finer points of male anatomy.  I would of course be naked and she would have some gloves and lube to make sure her students really get a (man)handle on a live subject!
Please bend over for your exam; it will be thorough
Female warden dominating a male prisoner.  This has a ton of possibilities to it.  We've talked about getting her a cop outfit (I'm sure handcuffs are needed, possibly she would "lock up" other parts of me too) and having her way with me.  Pretty sure I would just be naked and perhaps if I satisfy her sexually, she won't torture me; or she would just torture me anyway.  Wowsers!
Prepare to be thoroughly searched, you perp!
Or, there is always the Queen and I am a sexual slave in her harem.  The role reversal is a powerful submissive fantasy of mine.
The Queen
The sex slave
Halloween offers the chance to be a kid again and experiment.  But with the adult pleasures of adding the sexual experience to the mix.  I have submissive tendencies, so most of the role playing that I find attractive relate to my wife being in a more dominant position than me.  I'm sure there are lots of others that we can think of, and hopefully do.  I look forward to those times!

Happy (sexy) Halloween!

Erections Part I

Daydreaming of Suzy....
Erections are an important aspect of sexuality, so there is a lot to be said about them.  I am around forty, and I can't recall a time where I wanted an erection but could not obtain one - at least under normal circumstances.  There is probably an exception here or there for "vacation sex".  I can recall not being able to go for a third time on a cruise.  But that is more "pushing the envelope" of our normal sex life and I'm not counting that.

That isn't to say that I haven't noticed some drop off in erections as I've gotten older.  I remember, as a teenager, that I could get a full erection from seeing a woman in a bikini.  No touching, no talking; just visual excitement.  Then, as I was dating girls, I remember how quickly I could become erect from even nonsexual touching.  The fact that a girl wanted to be alone with me and maybe playfully flirted with me could create movement downstairs.  And I remember that when I was first married, I would maintain my erection even without direct stimulation on my cock.  I would be hard the entire time I performed cunnilingus on her.  *Sigh*  Those were the days!

I guess Beckem is thinking about his wife!
I have been there when I was younger...
 One of the many bummers of getting old is that I don't get as many spontaneous erections and don't seem to be able to maintain them without periodic physical stimulation.  For example, I am sure that I get erections when I am going down on my wife - I'm just not hard the entire time.... and after she's had her post orgasm basking period, I am sure that one of us would have to "wake up" Mr. Happy for some male playtime.  When she is playing with my perineum and my ass, I lose my erection in no time even though I highly enjoy that and it is highly sexual.  While I don't *need* an ED drug such as Cialis or Viagra, it's nice to know that they're there.  I would like to try one anyway (it's in my nature to experiment) to recreate the feeling of having an hour long erection.  Our recent sexual experiences have lasted that long.  I can massage Suzy for 20-30 minutes and then perform cunnilingus for another 10-15.  She usually wants to bask in post orgasmic bliss for 5 min after that.  Then, perhaps she would play with my cock some, or go to another female orgasm cycle.  The point being, it would be fun for me to be fully erect the whole time.
Obtaining a quality erection is one of life's great pleasures

Lately, I find that I get a "No Erection Depression" if I do not have a quality erection for a few days.  I honestly feel depressed right now.  Sure, I get "morning wood" and I get partially erect when I cuddle Suzy at night.  But what I am talking about here, is a quality, sexual erection.  Like, we kiss, she holds my cock and I am fully erect.  For several reasons, we have not had a sexual experience in almost 2 weeks.  I feel depressed.  It isn't a "gee I'm horny and need to come" feeling.  It's a feeling of sexual inadequacy because I haven't had a complete erection.  I feel impotent even though I know I'm not.  I have felt this before (as I said, this is more of a recent thing), and that depressing feeling went away even if I was denied orgasm.  I can't exactly "fix" this problem myself. 
After a few days, I can feel depressed if I don't have a quality erection

Friday, October 15, 2010

Male Underwear

"Loverboy Boxers"
I am not into fashion, but when it comes to sex, clothes are pretty important to me.  My sexy Suzy will say things like "What difference does it make if it's just going to come off?".  There is a difference to me.  It's like the wrapping paper to a present.  Most people prefer the mystery of having a nicely wrapped present.  The gift giver spent the time to present the mystery to you in an attractive way.  You're not sure what it is.  You have to physically unwrap it and  then you are surprised.  Now granted, neither Suzy nor I would be surprised by each other genitals.  I've spent some time between her legs, and I know what her pussy looks like.  But each time is a little different.  Her smell changes a lot.  Whether she has shaved her pussy bare or has a "landing strip" is alluring.  You can add some variety to your mate's genitals.  And a big way to do that is changing the packaging.

For most of my childhood, I wore "tighty whiteys".  That's what most little dudes wear, I think.  They hold your boys in pretty close.  towards the end of my high school era, it became clear through locker room chatter that these were not that cool.

Example of tighty whiteys.
I'm sure Suzy would study the stiching and craftsmanship on this garment.
Enter the era of boxers.  They let your boys hang freely.  It's like you are not wearing anything at all, compared to tighty whiteys.  I think they have a favorable impression on your sperm count.  Hey, I fathered sevearl children while wearing them.  Very utilitarian and "safe" to wear.  They are my "go to underwear", even today.

Boxers: comfortable, safe; will not get stares in the locker room
Now, how do you make men's underwear more interesting.  I love it when Suzy wears thongs/g-strings.  There is something just naughty about it.  No panty lines!  Ability to see and touch her booty!  Just barely covers her precious pussy!  Could male thongs be any fun?  Would Suzy like it if I wore thong underwear?

Men's Thongs: Ridiculous or Sexy?
I don't wear thongs that often.  I would not want to be changing in the locker room and have other dudes see me in a thong.  I am not sure if I look ridiculous in them or not.  I don't know if Suzy likes it when I wear them.  It is similar to the tat discussion from the prior day.  It's a fun secret to share.  On nights when we are going to "play" it helps me to anticipate our time together.  I *feel* sexy wearing them, even if I may look ridiculous.

I wear jock straps when I work out.  My balls really flap around a lot if I don't otherwise contain them.  I didn't realize this, but jocks are ideal for when I wear the chastity cage.  It gives good support to the added weight, and it makes urination a lot easier because you can just scootch it aside and pee.  Boxers are too hard to wear with a male chastity device because they don't give any support and you have to really take everything off to pee.
Jock Straps: Necessary for working out, Helpful when locked up, and occassionally sexy
When I was a teenager, I experimented with jock straps when I masturbated.  I tried two things: I wore in "normal" and then slid the part holding the cock and balls over my cock.  In this way, there was a lot of pressure from the elastic part on my cock.  The pressure really made my cock harder.  Similarly, I would wear it "backwards" and then pull each elastic strap over my cock.  It gave the same effect.  I enjoyed masturbating like this because it made my cock extra hard.  You really have to have some lube to stroke the shaft because it can become unbearably taut.

I suppose that no discussion of men's underwear choices is complete without talking about "going commando" - wearing no underwear at all.  I suppose the only times this makes sense to me is when I sleep. I generally sleep naked any chance I get.  I think I would feel really weird without having anything on. 

Going on a commando mission...
Hope Suzy enjoyed this discussion about men's underwear.  Panties are next!

Sick...and Horny

Everyone's happy when the Queen arrives...
A few things happen whenever I get sick:

  1. I lose weight because I don't eat well
  2. I need to be taken care of
  3. I watch a lot of TV
  4. I get really really horny

I have been fighting something for most of the week.  I finally took today "off" and sat around doing next to nothing.  Oh well.  Hopefully I'll get better.

I really really get horny.  Fortunately, Suzy gave me a good hand job last night.  She really worked my cock over well.  It was awesome.  I enjoyed it a lot.  Had a good night sleep and hopefully I will get better soon.

Not sure why I get so horny.  I guess that's a quick pleasurable thing that you can do when you don't feel like doing anything.  I hope she plays with my cock again tonight.  But I would really like her to come too!

Sunday, October 10, 2010


Suzy and I are the least likely people to have tattoos.  Most of my life, I have thought that people that had them were plain sketchy.  I get a little freaked out by seeing a young athlete or young actress covered with tats. There are a lot of people who have gone way overboard with tats.
Tommy Lee: Gross
Pamela Anderson: OK

Having said that, the "bad boy or girl" nature of it has some appeal.  I think the barbed wire armbands on a fit body look good.  A subtle one around an ankle or shoulder or navel can be sexy.  A tat on the small of a woman's back can be sexy also.
A nice body part sometimes goes OK with an understated tat
Not a bad location for a tat

Having a meaningful tat in a private area does hold some appeal.  Perhaps something on the ass or breast or  crotch area.  A secret that lovers share together.  Part of why I like to wear the chastity cage or wear thong underwear is the secret that it represents.  My lover knows about it but nobody else does.

I love it when Suzy surprised me with one of her temporary tattoos.  The last time we played, she had a heart tattoo on her right breast.  I don't remember exactly what it said but it was something like "hot momma".  I enjoy the fantasy of having a tattoo but am probably too chicken to do it.  The only thing that I could think of ever doing is something just above my cock that my pubic hair would cover up during, say, a doctor exam.  Not sure what it might say.  For Suzy: something that represents her power, like a wonder woman figure with a lasso, or a catwoman with a sexy saying like "make this pussy purrrr", or "come in, the water's warm".  LOL.  For me, maybe something like "Suzy's joystick" with her man-handling my cock.  For now, we can play with temporary tattoos.
I gots to keep her pussy purrrrring!

Penis Parole

She controls his release!!

Last Wednesday, my 'keyholder' wife decided that it was time for me to be released from my cage.  I was excited but nervous.  I had been locked for 4 days and I try to keep it as clean as I can.  I don't think she wants a stanky cock penetrating her.  I also get a little nervous because when I am denied orgasm for a while, I don't have very much stamina.

She gave me instructions as to where the chastity key was and told me to take it off and shower.  Phew, the cleanliness issue is resolved.  Her instructions were for me to lie in bed naked and await her.  No problem!

Suzy came out naked and was amorous.  We did a lot of kissing and she rubbed against me, getting my cock hard.  She enjoys the feel of my hardness.  We inserted the cock with her on top.  That went for a while.  I usually can't come with the wife on top, but given my denial and the length that we played and kissed and caressed, I started to get a little nervous about that.  She then decided it was time for a female orgasm.  I used the Hitachi Magic Wand and my finger to hit her G-Spot.  It didn't take long.  She had a real nice orgasm.

Since this was the first time I had had a real, complete erection in several days, I wanted to penetrate.  Hormones were flowing through my body and I wanted to get inside of her bad.  She slowed me down and  told me she needed to bask in her orgasmic pleasure.  She wanted to be rubbed.  I complied.  I couldn't help thinking that my sexy wife had just had 6 straight orgasms and none for me.  Sexy!  That thought alone was driving me insane.

She eventually allowed me missionary penetration.  Then she asked for her smaller vibe since she wanted to come with my cock in her.  This vibe can allow her to stimulate her clit while I penetrate her vaginally.  It's the way we used to 'always' do it, and that vibe is behind the times.  That vibrator has given her many moments of pleasure, I can assure you that!  However, since it is older and on it's last leg, I was not sure how effective it was going to be.  We don't use it that much anymore.  Perhaps we should make another purchase...

I returned with the vibrator and initiated penetration.  She promptly added the vibrator to her clit.  It was awesome.  I try very hard to give her the penetration that she wants: slow but deep.  It's about her pleasure and I want to make sure to last long enough for her to orgasm.  I had a hard time holding off, but it seemed like her climax was approaching.  I didn't think I could hold off much longer and just went with it.  I *think* that when I reach the point of no return, the additional last minute animalistic thrusts before my orgasm prompts her to come too.  I wonder if she agrees with that: it seems like our impending orgasms are so arousing to each other that it brings us to come together.  We reached the sexual nirvana of simultaneous orgasm.  We have done that several times before, but it is hard to do intentionally.

Intercourse with Suzy after 4 days of chastity was a celebration of sex!!!

At any rate, I came in buckets.  It was a fantastic orgasm.  Possibly one of my most intense ever.  I wonder, had I not come in her pussy, how far I would have shot my loads.  I told Suzy that it felt like my load pounded her pussy and then ricocheted back to my cock.  If felt like an absolute bath of pussy juices and semen.  Liquid lust!  HOT!!!!

We just lay there motionless for a while.  It seemed like a spiritual experience for both of us!  Wow!  Hope we can have more of those!

I am glad she let me out.  This period of chastity was pretty intense and our playtime when I was let out was really really hot!  Love my sexy dominant wife!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010


Woman playing with her man's ass
My ass
I will not beat around the bush.  I love having my ass played with.  This is not something that I ever thought about or would have ever suggested.  One time when we were "fooling around" during our dating period, she stimulated my hole.  Wowsers.  That feels very good.  It turns out that the anal region has one of the highest concentrations of nerve endings on the body.  It sends a charge up my nervous system when she plays down there. 

I like the gentle tickle or spider legs right on my butt hole.  (Is there a sexier way to say that?)  That's probably our most common method of butt stimulation.  Sometimes, when she is administering a "smack down" of my ass and balls, she will take the crop and run it along the length of my crack.  AWESOME!  When feeling playful, she will poke my butt hole pretty aggressively.  We have explored actual penetration of my ass before.  She's inserted her fingers in there trying to stimulate my prostate.  I enjoyed that a lot!  We've used butt plugs also.  I have an aneros prostate stimulator.  I don't get the "prostate orgasms" that some men describe.  I'd like to try more though.  I think that this is something that may require some practice.

While penetration/prostate play doesn't seem to have "Big-O" potential (yet), I love the psychological aspects of it.  I feel very submissive when we play this way.  Suzy doesn't like to get messy with the lube, so I lube the toy up for her.  Prepping for my ass being violated is kind of a thrill.  Then, there's the positioning as I await her to penetrate me.  Being on my knees, unable to see it coming, balls exposed and vulnerable and my butt cheeks spread.  It is a very submissive position.  She does a great job of teasing me and smacks my vulnerable balls.  Once she actually penetrates me, I get a surge of pleasure.  I think my neurons are firing like crazy.  I get a thrill by not actually knowing what she's doing down there.  I *think* she took the butt plug and repeatedly penetrated me once.  It was awesome.
No, I don't look forward to this on doctor visits.  Really uncomfortable.  But when I'm aroused and Suzy's the "doctor"... well that's another story!
Anal play seems natural for when I am locked in the chastity device.  The "role reversal" is hot to me.  She, who is normally penetrated by my cock, turns the tables and penetrates me.  Me lickey.  After a good going over, I clean up.

We've talked about doing strap on sex.  That is where the wife has a dildo in place as a "cock" and has penetrative sex with her husband.  I would really like to try that.  No, I don't want to "take" a real cock.  No interest there.  The submissive nature and the role reversal are very appealing to me.

"Take it like a man", lol. 
If we ever do this, I would prefer to be positioned where I can see her and direct a vibrator so that she climaxes

The ass cheeks themselves are very sensitive also, and I like having them tickled a lot.  Let's not forget spanking.  I feel like spanking and cock and ball torture - punishment in general - deserves several posts on their own.  However, I would be remiss in a post about anal play if I did not highlight how awesome it is to have light stimulation of my cheeks and a good sound beating of my ass.  I enjoy that a lot.

The only thing I don't really like about anal play is that I get some anxiety from hygiene.  I get nervous that I may be "farty" or not clean when she does decide to play.  Conversely, I am a disappointed when I know I'm "good to go" and really want some anal play and it doesn't happen.  Such is the life of a submissive husband!

Her Ass
I love everything about Suzy's sexy body.  She's got great tits and a rocking ass.  No kidding, when we were dating, I recognized her across a field just by her booty.  It is awesome.  It is so petite.  I enjoy running my hands over it and "cupping" the cheeks with my hands.  When I am massaging her back, she usually has to keep me "on task" because I stray to play with her cheeks to much.

I believe she let me try to penetrate her anally once.  I couldn't get my cock in.  We weren't very experienced with sex at the time, and I am sure I could do it if she let me have the chance.  Suzy does not seem open to this anymore.  Never say never!  One time I inserted a finger up her butt and she didn't seem to appreciate it.  I am convinced she would have a fantastic orgasm if I had one finger in her pussy, another in her ass, and a vibe on her clit.  I think that would be a trifecta of female pleasure!  Some day....
At least for now, penetrating her booty seems off limits.  Never say never!
I am pretty sure I have performed analingus on Suzy before.  I don't know if she liked it or not.  I would do it again, I just need her to be clean "down there".

Ah, the ass.  Such a marvelous body part for sexual exploration!  Bottoms up!!!!