Saturday, April 22, 2017

Q & A part deux

13: Is there anybody right now you’d like to have sex with?

- Yes, my wife Suzy!
14: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?

- Oral sex in our bedroom is uni-directional, me going down on Suzy; and I love it, especially when she comes.  Her scent is a little too strong for me just before and just after her flow, but otherwise it's just lovely.  Of all the sex acts we perform, for me it feels like I am truly "making love" to her.  Especially love it when she is nicely shaved down there, it's such a turn on.  I wish it was more consistent to get her to climax, but perhaps I need more practice...
15: Most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?

- I have farted exactly during my ejaculation; but I think more embarrassing than that was for me to ejaculate (twice) while performing cunnilingus on Suzy.  The first time sort of ruined things for both, but the second time I was able to man up and finish the job on her.  Her moaning was just so damn sexy...
16: A song you’d listen to during hard/rough/kinky sex?

- Just about anything by Led Zeppelin or AC/DC sounds about right.
17: A song you’d listen to during soft/slow/passionate sex?

- Foolish Game by Chris Isaac, over and over, I suppose.
18: Are you into dressing up for sex?

- I have a strong CFNM fetish, but I do enjoy wearing thongs; the feel of the fabric up my ass is erotic and I think I have a conditioned response or something, that whenever I wear thongs, something sexy will happen.  I do love it when Suzy wears sexy outfits, I like "unwrapping" her as, sort of on a body part by body part basis.
19: Would you prefer sex in the bath or sex in the shower?

- Shower, but Suzy generally refuses.  She is one of those women that is "always cold" and does not want to share the warm water.  At least that's what I think anyway.  
20: If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be?

- Suzy.  Now.
21: Have you ever had a threesome? If not, would you?

- No, and I want it desperately.  A MFM that is.  If you haven't figured out from my blog, satisfying my wife is the ultimate sexual high for me.  The thought of her being pampered by four horny hands, two mouths, and two hard cocks is super erotic.  I only worry about the Inigo Montoya syndrome.  That is, I've been wanting that for so long, maybe when it finally happens something could go wrong (e.g., I can't perform, he can't perform, one of us comes too soon, we don't clique somehow, etc.)  
22: Do you/would you use sex toys?

- Very frequently.  Please realize that most times we are intimate, it's very late at night and I'm not ready to perform acrobatic sex.  So perhaps my oral sex game isn't what it should be, or whatnot.  So, I frequently use toys on her, and she does have fantastic orgasms.  I normally finger her pussy while the vibe is on her clit, but frankly we have a lot of sex toys that we don't use, and I'd like to alternate more.  Especially with some insertables.  Suzy doesn't seem to like it as much, but when I inserted a big dildo in her pussy, it was super exciting to me to watch her labia stretching to accept the phallus.  I loved that.  I will note that most of our sex toys meant to be applied to me are mainly there to reduce or slow down my sexual pleasure, but all of them are to enhance hers.
23: Have you ever sent someone a dirty text/picture?

- Yes.  We have done two erotic photo shoots of her that were intended for her lovers or potential lovers for her dating website.  Very, very sexy experience being the photographer and trying to compose a photo of your wife that would arouse another male.  I got one with my hard cock in it, but I noticed she didn't send that one, LOL.  And yes, sexting is an important part of our pre-sex foreplay.
24: Would you have sex with your best friend?

- Yes, Suzy is my best friend.
25: Is there anything you do after sex? (for example, smoke, eat, drink)

- When I was younger, I'd fall asleep immediately, but nowadays I get amped up.  It depends if I come or not.  If I don't come, I usually help her get dressed, then take a sleeping pill and cuddle with my hardon pressed against her ass.  If I do come, I usually bask in paralytic post-orgasmic bliss for a few minutes, then clean up, then take a sleeping pill, then cuddle with my soft cock against her ass.

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

91 questions (from JF Break)

Idea came from fellow blogger JF Break Out.  

1:When did you lose your virginity?

- I was 17 and it was with a girl I knew from elementary school and we ended up dating in HS.  It was not a good experience, probably for either of us.  I remember feeling very awkward about rolling the condom on and feeling really guilty after I had ejaculated.  She was not a virgin, she had been with an older man, which now that I think about it, seems like it would be illegal.  I think we did it a few times.  She had a unique last name (e.g., easily google-able), I had a rough idea of what she wanted to do career-wise, but I still could not find her on google/stalk search.    
2: Rough sex or soft sex?

- Rough.  I think sex is inherently rough (I'm usually on top of her in missionary and I outweigh her by ~40 pounds - that always struck me as maybe a bit uncomfortable for her?) and messy.  My arousal and orgasm are much more intense when she pinches my nipples, slaps/squeezes my balls, spanks me, etc.  Love that.
3: Do you have any unusual kinks/fetishes?

- My blog is mostly about my kinks and I'm forever grateful to my wife for exploring them.  We've done a lot of pretty kinky stuff together, but I have a pretty vivid imagination.  Top ones that we have done are cuckolding, CFNM, male orgasm denial, and cock and ball torture.  Definitely would like to watch her get fucked and be watched (us fucking, a MFM threesome, or her dominating me).
4: Weirdest place you’ve had sex?

- In the community jacuzzi at the apartment building I stayed in my senior year of college.  I entered her but I don't believe I came.  The thrill of being caught was exciting.  Also did it in a van on a side street in a very fancy neighborhood before a very fancy dinner; I came that time, but we used a condom.  Can't have a mess in the family van!
5: Favourite sex position?

- Hands down, wife on top.  Not that I'm lazy, it's just so erotic to watch her use me for her sexual pleasure, focusing on her own orgasm and placing her hands on my chest to get leverage.  My love language is "physical touch" and I just love feeling her body on top of mine; have I mentioned I love it when she touches my chest?  Makes me feel strong and manly I guess.  I have a lot more stamina in this position, as well.  I think I've only come a few times in this position, and one time it was when she first started pinching my nipples, so I was super turned on.
6: Do you like to be dominant or submissive?

- Haha, pretty obvious I like to be submissive.  I do have a dominant fantasy of tying her up and "forcing" her to have many, many orgasms.
7: Have you ever had any one night stands?

- No.
8: Sex on the bed, couch or the floor?

- Mainly the bed, but sometimes we've done it on the floor and in our closet to muffle the sound when we have company over.
9: Have you ever had sex in a public place?

- Yes, see number 4 above.  In addition, the day she became a hotwife (which was done in her vehicle) we did it in her vehicle as well.  We were like horny teenagers and couldn't wait for marital reclaim sex.  Suzy seemed much more comfortable with this than me, frankly.
10: Have you ever been caught masturbating?

- Not that I can remember...nobody talks about fight club!
11: What does your favourite sexy underwear look like?

- I like it when she wears matching bra and thongs, and it's fun when she wears panties that have a message on them that informs what will or won't happen, (e.g., "Access Denied", "Lucky"). 
12: How often do you have sex?

- Not much lately, but I keep good track of our orgasms on this page.  Long term average is Suzy comes about 6 times per month, I come about 3 times per month.

Friday, March 10, 2017

Hubby Loves Cunnilingus...a little too much ;-o

I was hoping for sex last weekend, as Suzy and I have had overlapping illnesses.  She seemed finally getting better, and I *needed* some marital relations.  Friday night, we crashed early.  Saturday morning, she mentions that she is taking a "long shower", which in our household means she's shaving her pussy and/or using the showerhead for some female pleasure.  In this case, it was the former (as far as I know...).  So, I knew her pussy was nicely shaved, which makes me want to go down on her.  However, she went to a late movie with a child, so no sex Saturday.

The excellent book She Comes First gives a lot of tips on how to orally pleasure a female.  Maybe I'm not that great of a learner, as I've struggled to bring her to climax with my tongue.  However, a central premise of this book is that few women (I think it's been quoted as around 25%) can achieve orgasm through penetration.  So, the author argues that cunnilingus should not be considered as foreplay, but rather as the main event of the sexual encounter for the woman, resulting in her orgasm.  That part of the book I get.  In most circumstances, Suzy does come first, but given our busy lives, we frequently use toys to get her off.

In any event, I had in my head that I'd like to go down on her.  I really do believe that cunnilingus is the best representation of making love to her.  It feels loving.  It feels intimate.  People in general are very protective of what they put in their mouths, so it's a loving, trusting, sensual thing.

She came to the bedroom Sunday night dressing sexy, she climbed into bed, and I began groping her.  She was receptive.  I took my shorts off and she was more aroused than normal, she was more vocal with soft moans, which I was loving.  I pushed her PJ bottoms off, and I entered her, feeling very good about my stamina, considering how horny I was.  But then I was thinking about cunnilingus.

My theory is that the times we are successful with oral sex is when she is very aroused with lots of foreplay.  And I could tell she was aroused.  After about the second stoke inside her, I could feel her wetness on my cock.  I stopped after ~30 seconds of intercourse to go down on her.

She was receptive.  I love it when she's nicely shaved down there.  I love that she was wet before I started, and I usually have to tease her a bit before she's ready for clitoral stimulation, but it felt like I could go right in there to her pleasure center.  She tasted great.  She was moaning and seemed to be loving the attention.  I was very cognizant of my usual mistake, which is to speed up as she gets close to climax.  I kept a steady pressure on her clit.  Her moaning was getting more ardent, and sometimes she involuntarily bucks her hips as she gets close to orgasm.  Everything was going great.

Except, I felt a surge of excitement coming over my own genitals.  I was so aroused from her moaning, and so excited with the prospect of getting her off with my tongue, that I came.  I ejaculated.  I had an orgasm.  Except for the ~30 seconds of intercourse, she had not touched my body.

However, to my credit, I kept going instead of the other time this happened.  My premature ejaculation was probably seconds before hers.  Her orgasm was terrific for both of us.  She did buck her hips and her moaning was so erotic.

Frankly, I wasn't sure myself what had happened to me.  It wasn't an intense orgasm, and I thought maybe it was a "ruined orgasm".  I had full pressure on my penis, which was on top of the shorts I jettisoned.  I was hoping that it was a ruined one, and that I could continue with sex after her post orgasm down time.  I looked at my mess on my shorts, and it was a big load, a mess.  I didn't feel like I was going to be able to get hard again, and confessed to Suzy that eating her pussy was a little too exciting for me.

Her reaction was one of disbelief.  She didn't remember the time this happened before, and was very surprised.  I think she thought it was funny, and then said something about her having "power over men".  She asked if I was thinking about cuckolding, and I wasn't.  I was really just turned on by her moaning and obvious level of excitement.  In the following days, she teased me a bit about being a "fast husband", or something like that.  The reality was that it was embarrassing.  But I guess it proves that I enjoy going down on her....  a little too much?!  Perhaps we should do this more regularly so that I can learn to take the excitement better!  Love you, sexy wife!

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Part 2: Birth Control Options for a Hotwife

Summing up, I have a vasectomy yet sometimes we use condoms for convenience.  The first convenient reason being that we don't want my load in hard-to-clean places, like her vehicle, a sibling's house, things like that.

Or, there's the other reason: when Suzy is almost starting or almost finishing her period.  She will typically tell me to use a condom.

Such was the case in our first intercourse session of 2017.  I had no problems rolling it on, and I got really excited about having sex with her.  I entered, and penetrated her slowly like she likes.  But then, I thought of something that aroused me intensely and made me come faster than I would have liked.

So for some more background, Suzy seemed to want to go away from condom usage with her lover.  She floated the idea by me and I gave her some feedback.  On their 3rd playdate, his second round of intercourse, he did not use a condom, but he pulled out and ejaculated onto her stomach.  Then, on their 4th playdate, he actually came inside her, giving her a "creampie".  We did not have reclaim sex that time, for various reasons.  Needless to say, that is a big step in a cuckolding relationship.

So, as I am penetrating my wife with my condom-wrapped cock and as she is approaching orgasm, I start to think about the fact that I haven't had a lot of sex with Suzy, and realize that the last time she played with him, he dropped his load inside her.  Here I am (the one that's snipped, monogamous, and her husband) fucking her with a condom.  That "double standard" caught my attention and therefore I couldn't get it out of my head.  We actually ended up coming at the same time, which is nice.  At any rate, I was turned on by the discrepancy, it made me feel extremely submissive, so I came.

I really have no idea as to what's going on with her lover, or the chances for any men that might be "pinch hitters" for her primary extramarital lover while he is "out of commission".  Suzy has told me that she's a "one man hotwife" (although I think she really means "two man" hotwife, lol) so it's not clear if she will remain "faithful" to him or she will seek other more physically capable studs.  Or, if she will take a break from hotwifing.  Time will tell.

Meanwhile, we had our second intercourse session of 2017.  It was more romantic/tender than usual.  I really had no expectation of sex.  Back in the day, I used to give Suzy a lot of massages, especially during Desperate Housewives.  It was a fun experience for us, as I'd probably be massaging mainly her feet for say 30 min, and she would sometimes stroke me to get me hard.  Then, we'd go upstairs and have sex.  Well, this time, she has had some back issues, and I massaged her.  This arouses her, it is foreplay for her.  She practically asked for an orgasm, so I gave her one in the way she typically enjoys.  I then took my clothes off and wanted to get a good erection by being on top of her.  She really didn't say much, so I entered her.  I might have asked her it was ok for me to come inside her, she said yes, and we had a nice session of sex.  It was more "making love" than normal, if that makes sense.  She surprised me by reaching to my chest with both hands and pinching my nipples HARD.  I came almost immediately.  Perhaps it was the shock of that, given the context.  I'm curious to know what Suzy was thinking.  But, I do like it when she's rough with me.  A LOT!!!

Friday, January 27, 2017

Part 1: Birth Control Options for a Hotwife

Unfortunately, 2017 has not got off to the best start.  A number of reasons, most of which are unrelated to - although do impact - our sex life.  Suzy has three climaxes YTD, and I have one, although I will have to update the orgasm tracker to reflect.

Suzy made two (maybe three?) efforts to play with her "friend" but they did not work out.  In fact - paradoxically - they are both out of commission.

Out of commission - "Friend #6"
Her paramour unexpectedly had an intense medical procedure that will leave him out of commission for some time.  Nothing directly related to his genitals, but I think it's fair to say that the male needs to have certain physical dexterity to perform the sex act, and he may not have that for some time.  While I immediately thought Suzy might use this as an opportunity to do some role playing as a "nurse" or otherwise cheer him up, that isn't the case.  It seems that his recovery regimen didn't lend itself to the sort of care that Suzy would provide.  I personally don't know what his rehab program entails, but I suspect that they are still communicating.

Out of commission - Suzy
Well, Suzy is on her period.  Being a fertile female, that's not unusual, but I just saw some irony in the "out of commission" metaphor that I simply couldn't pass up.  It also happens to be the euphemism that Suzy and I employ most commonly.  In any event, around Tuesday of last week, Suzy seemed to be "in the mood" and she mentioned that she might be starting soon, so I figure there was a good opportunity for some marital relations.  While I don't remember the exact details of our foreplay, her outfit, etc., one aspect of our session caught me off guard.  I have some mixed feelings about it, and I've been processing them for a while.

For some background for this "two parter", you need to know that our primary birth control for the first decade or so of our marriage was her taking birth control pills.  We did the whole reproduction thing, then when we were done, I got a vasectomy.

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So, as a couple, we've never relied on the use of condoms for primary contraception.  We have typically used condoms for "convenience".  Say we are having sex at a relative's house, neither of us want my load splattered in a loved one's home.  Bro Code.  Or, when we had sex in our vehicle.  How would we ever clean that stuff up?  It's just less messy for me to wrap it up.

Sunday, January 1, 2017

My Bride's thoughts!

I'm never going to whittle down my backlog of draft blog posts if I keep adding new ones.  Anyway, just wanted to give a shout-out to my hotwife's thoughts on our cuckolding adventure.  Always great to hear her perspective!  Love that woman!

We talked about it briefly today, and the major thing I got wrong in my writeup on the wife watching/hotel fantasy is that I will not be locked in chastity.  Anyway, she's pretty specific about her expectations in her post.

Happy New Year!


Saturday, December 31, 2016

Her cuckold fantasy

I picked up Suzy from her out of state trip.  I did not masturbate, but I did a fair amount of email drafting of fantasies, and working on some blog posts.  I was horny to say the least.  We finally got a little time to be alone, and I was erect just about the entire time we cuddled and talked.  I really wanted something sexual to happen, but she delayed it until later.

As we cuddled, she gave me an update on some of her sexual fantasies.  I remember when we were first married, she claimed to never have any fantasies.  It's super exciting to me that she's driving some naughty sexual escapades now.  YES!

At any rate, Suzy is now comfortable with me watching her have sex with Friend #6; he is also comfortable with it.  Here's my understanding of the date:

Suzy and I will arrive at the hotel room and get settled in.  Her bull wants me locked up in chastity for the initial round.  They will have sex, with me watching.  He will likely be using a condom (reason follows).  Suzy is a little nervous about this, in the vein of "once you watch me having sex with another male, that can't be undone".  She does seem excited for me to observe his orgasm, she said his first one is very  intense.  When they are done, I will have sex with Suzy.  Curiously, there was some talk about her FwB being jealous of watching me having sex with my wife.  She explained why - not really important to describe here.  Anyway, he is comfortable with me watching them, but if he gets uncomfortable with me having sex with Suzy, he will simply leave the room, and will be summoned later for round 3.  The reason that he will wear a condom for Round 1 is that Suzy wants to give fellatio so that he can get it up for round 3.  Presumably, I am also allowed to watch again.  THEN, I am to be dismissed and they will have a "sleepover".  She expects that they will have more sex, presumably in the morning when they wake up.

That's the working script of how our first live cuckolding event will play out.  I do think some details need to be worked out, but the estimated time for this is later in January or February.  Friend #6 is traveling quite a bit.  There is a possibility of a solo playdate next weekend, but Suzy wasn't that optimistic on that.  I suspect it will be refined as the time approaches.

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We "reconnected" after all this cuckold talk and Suzy wore her new VS PJ's.  While I wouldn't say it's overtly sexy/naughty (meaning, she could wear it around the house), it did give me easy access to everything I needed to get her motor running.  She had a lovely G-spot/fingering vibe on her clit orgasm.  I really felt her vaginal contractions nicely, and I could tell it was an intense climax.  She told me to roll over, and she gave me a long tease and denial session with some nipple pinching and cock and ball torture.  She then said that she wanted her clothes back on, so I put her panties and PJ bottoms back on, all the while still sporting my erection.  I played with her back as she fell asleep, and she said, "I love the cuddling and attention I get when you're denied.  I'm probably going to get breakfast in bed tomorrow, right?".  Yes, the Queen got breakfast in bed!

I sent her my email of fantasies I've been having, one of which nicely overlapped with HER fantasy above.  I expect that she will give me some feedback at some point, and there's a rumor that she may blog.  And, by they way, she liked/endorsed my 2017 sexual goals!  Yay!