Sunday, August 28, 2016

New female orgasm technique

I just realized that it's been about 2 months since I last posted.  Everything's fine.  We've had some positive life changes and it has caused our normal flow to be disrupted.  How's that for ambiguity?  Plus, routines get out of whack during the summer.  It seems that we are getting close to being in a groove again.

I've been traveling a lot for work.  Before that started, Suzy teased me that she would deal with my absence by playing with a lover.  I was fairly excited about that idea, but frankly I got so focused on my job that I didn't even think about it much.  I didn't blog at all.

When I came home, we had some passionate sex.  Some new sex.  It's amazing to me that we can find new ways to enjoy sex after being married for as long as we have.

So here's what we did.

When we have intercourse, Suzy typically holds the Hitachi on her clit while I penetrate her.  She always tells me to go slowly.  I get super turned on that she tells me how to fuck her.  Anyway, I will slowly penetrate her and frankly with my cock inside her and the Hitachi on her clit, she comes in no time.  It's pretty awesome.

So a few weeks ago, she told me (yes, it was phrased like I had no choice in the matter, which excited me a lot!) that she wanted slow penetrations (as before) but during her orgasm, she wanted me to be fully inside her pussy but to stop the "in and out".  So during her climax, my erection is no longer thrusting, but filling her pussy.

She L O V E D this.  It's our new thing.  The first time we tried it, she came really hard and said "wow, we've got to try that again!"  I told her I was game.  So we have done that a few times, and she's had great orgasms every time.

I am not sure what made her think of this, and why it might enhance her orgasm.  No clue.  But WE like it and it is a lot of fun.  I have no problem figuring out when to stop thrusting.  I hold my cock still during her climax, I enjoy her orgasm and let her calm down a bit, and then I go back to penetrating her until I come.

I read a fair amount of sex articles and I've never heard of this technique being recommended.  I don't even know what to call it.  I appreciate any suggestions, and would love to hear about any readers' experimentation with this.

Saturday, June 25, 2016

Back in the Hotwife Saddle - Suzy 5, Playmate 1, Hubby 0

I'm regaining my lost mojo at a snail's pace, whereas Suzy put our sex life into hyperdrive this week.  The bottom line is that Suzy had been interested in hotwifing and finally had an opportunity to do so this past week.  Schedules lined up this week, so Suzy had sex with her fourth playmate since we began our hotwifing journey.  This is the guy that she met for a meet and greet a few weeks ago and letter regretting getting physical with.  He travels a lot but can host, so when the time came, she went for it.

The downside to this playdate is that I was asleep.  Part of my lost mojo, I guess, but that's what happened: she played while I was asleep, so no reclaim sex.  Apparently, he even suggested taking sexy photos and sending them to me, but Suzy decided against that.

Suzy came THREE times with him.  Her first orgasm (via fingering) was "very quick" according to her.  Suzy was a very aroused hotwife that night!  He told her he could not reach climax because "she was too wet" and wasn't getting enough friction on his cock to ejaculate.  I'll leave the rest of the details to Suzy, but suffice it to say that she enjoyed herself.  She went out of her way to mention that his attention was most definitely on her.

I was a bit aloof (I had a stressful event occur around this timeframe, so give me some slack with that!) and we didn't have a full conversation until our drive to a datenight last night.  She gave me all the details, and I was probably erect the entire time we talked about it.  In fact, when we got to the establishment, I was well "tented" and had to try to hide my arousal from vanilla passersby.  A lot of the conversation focused on hotwifing, although in less graphic terms since we were technically in public.  More talking about where things stand with other playmates, possible next rendezvous, things like that.

We were tired when we got back, and Suzy came out of the bedroom with me naked.  We did some foreplay and some more dirty talking.  In the "hot things your wife has said" category, Suzy said, "so you're the cuckold and I'm the hotwife!"*.  I did some breast stimulation and then finally took her panties and PJ's off, and gave her a solid G-spot fingering orgasm.  I enjoyed the after climax caressing (I think she did too!) and I was pretty determined to experience another female orgasm, which she seemed a little reluctant at first, but then enjoyed it.  She was clear that she did not want me to penetrate her and then later was clear that she did not want me to orgasm, but "maybe tomorrow if you're a good boy".

I put her clothes back on, took my sleeping pill (I was way too aroused at this point!) and then she enjoyed cuddling me with my erection poking her backside.  Husband denied.

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* I do read a forum about hotwifing and the distinction among various lifestyle labels seems to crop up a bit.  Suzy has asked me about it, and I think at various times I've started a post.  The fact of the matter is: I think Suzy is a "hotwife" because she has sex with men other than me with my knowledge and approval (kinda hard to deny the "tenting").  I'm really turned on by the double standard, and part of our dirty talking was her teasing me about how many lovers she's had compared to me.  I believe I'm a "cuckold" in the sense that my wife has sex with other men with my knowledge.  In these forums and via google, there seems to be a bit of a consensus that a cuckold is more into humiliation, etc.  While we've occasionally played with humiliation, that's not a normal part of our sex play.  So, perhaps I'm not a "full fledged" cuckold, but I enjoy - during dirty talk - her referring to me as a cuckold (I enjoy being called "slave", for that matter; as well as her saying that my release is contingent on me being a good "boy"), and we both seem to like the idea of her being a "hotwife".  We have agreed that her extramarital sexual partners are not "bulls" because I certainly would not want to be humiliated by another male (which seems to be the nuance of the term bulls, that they humiliate the cuckold husband).  So, for now, I will refer to her as the hotwife, me the cuckold husband, and her partners as "playmates", "boytoys", "lovers".

Monday, May 30, 2016

Lost Mojo?

For the past few weeks, I have uncharacteristically had an almost non-existent sex drive.  In spite of some inevitable middle age health issues (fewer and lower quality erections, "procedures"), I haven't lost much libido compared to my horny teenage years.  Call it "life getting in the way".  Well, and Suzy has herself had a lot of stressful events.  It's just been a crappy few months.  I am confident it will get better.

Meanwhile, I wanted to use the long weekend as a way to get my mind of those things, to enjoy and not stress.  On Saturday night - seemingly the first time in a while - we had a quality cuddle.  We had some pillow talk about how un-horny I was, and Suzy (jokingly?) said that it's been a relief that I haven't been after her, sexually.  She made it clear that she didn't want to play, but we CUDDLED all night and I groped her body.  This usually does increase my desire for her, and as I was half-waking up on Sunday morning, hands all over her, I envisioned the fact that other more virile men have enjoyed my wife's body.  I still get a rush in knowing that there are a few other men that have or are trying to enjoy my wife's sexuality.  My desire for her shot up quite a bit.  Plus, I had also been reflecting on our photo shoot that I discussed in my last post.

By that time I was super horny, my "mojo" back, and wanted her.  She gave me a rundown on where things stand with her, some banter as to how she "liked" me in my lost mojo state, and then had a heavy insinuation that she would "take a long shower", our euphemism for a shower-head induced solo female orgasm.  I wish she understood how hot I think female masturbation is, from my perspective.  It's a matter of perspective: the thought of me jerking off is disturbing to her, but the thought of her climaxing solo is very arousing to me... the whole "my wife NEEDS to come" thing.

So, we had a bit more info exchange and then we played VERY late last night.  Too late.  Naked, I got on top of her and darn near rubbed myself to a climax while I was giving her foreplay (sorry about all that pre-come on your PJ's hon!).  She had an intense Hitachi orgasm - it was very exciting for me to watch her experience that level of pleasure.  She treated me to a nice teasing session with nipple pinching, cock stroking, and ball torture, and I came very close to orgasm, but she backed off.  Orgasm denied.  At that point, I was super tired and crashed with her naked with the knowledge that my wife came twice within a 24 hour period.

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As I have said before, I get a bit depressed if I don't have a solid erection for a few days.  Suzy's tease and denial session have lifted my spirits up a bit.  I do have some pretty good cravings for some kinky sex play, and I am not sure where Suzy stands with this.  She implied last night that I was "topping from the bottom" (giving her too many "suggestions") but I am struggling to communicate my most current fantasies (many of which we've acted on several times, but not for a while) with some newer ones (again, most of which she knows about) - in light of Suzy wanting me to be more dominant or less submissive.  Maybe Suzy would be willing to try try this?

Thursday, May 19, 2016

CFNM Nirvana - sexy photos of a hotwife

Suzy has been sending some sexy selfies to her potential playmates, sometimes while I am asleep and then after the fact she tells me about it, and shows me what she sent.  I usually ask, "what was his reaction", and its usually something positive, and they send back sexy photos of them.  This is pretty far outside her comfort zone, which was sorta solidified when we saw this movie in the theater.  So, she's changed her position on that.  Well, she and I had talked about me being the photographer so that she can have "better shots" than she can do alone with selfies.

We finally had our photoshoot a few days ago.  I helped retrieve some of her sexier undergarments/accessories and she sorted through what thong and bra she wanted.  I felt it was only right for me to be fully nude, to make her feel more comfortable.  So even though she was very exposed, I was still more exposed.

What a session!  I was in CFNM nirvana.  Here's what got me going:

  • Me composing a shot, sometimes getting on the floor, just trying to maximize the sexiness.
  • The degree to which we partnered in this effort, she and I both suggesting different angles/poses.
  • At least for me, the lack of shame around a married couple being comfortable with nudity sexiness even though we weren't initially directly engaging in sex.
  • The fact that the photos were intended for "her lovers", and after the shoot was done, she cropped and sent the ones she liked and deleted everything on my phone.  So no, I don't have a copy to share.
  • My personal favorite photo was one including my own erection at the entrance to her pussy.  I would love to have more photos of my own body as well.  Unfortunately, given the intended audience for the photos, I think that one was deleted.
  • After we were done and getting ready for bed, she allowed me to enter her, with a condom.  So hot for her to watch me roll the condom on.
  • As she was readying herself for penetration, she nonchalantly put on a sexy black camisole.  What a rush!  She had just taken several topless photos for her lovers, but for sex with me, she covers up.  I have no idea if she did this to satisfy my CFNM fetish, or she was just cold.  But it was so hot, me still being fully nude.  I believe she had on her stockings.
  • All told, I was fully nude for maybe like an hour?  My cock had varying stages of hardness, but clearly I was at least partially erect the whole time.  It feels so good to be so open and exposed, LIGHTS ON, for such an extended period of time.  What a foreplay session!  It was one of the few sessions we've had where I came before her.

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Suzy has a planned "playdate" tonight.  I can't wait how it unfolds.  As luck would have it, this playmate is open to taking sexy photos of their play time, so it is possible that I will get a snapchat or a text from her at some point... mind is reeling as to what sexy shots I will get!

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Her Post Orgasmic Glow & Sexual Role Playing

Our sexy time has been hit hard, for various reasons.  Life getting in the way, as they say.

I'm not sure if I've blogged about this, but one thing I've been struggling with is the dominance/submissive thing in the bedroom.  Suzy has given me feedback that she likes her male partner to take charge, to be more assertive.  I typically ask her if she wants me to do a particular sex act.  I'll say something like, "Suzy, I'd like to go down on you, is that OK?".  The feedback she's giving me is that she would really just prefer that I go for it.  So, I've been trying to do that more.

Except when she resists.  Ugh.  As an example for this week, I wanted her to come, and using the Hitachi is the only option at the moment.  She resisted this pretty hard a couple of nights this week.  Last night I was determined and she paradoxically refused again.  But I kept at it, I was persistent.  I needed her to come.  She was very tired but gave up resisting me and allowed me to hold the Hitachi against her beautiful pussy.  She came hard.  We both loved it.  But what was particularly exciting to me was how sensitive her body was post-orgasm.  I was touching her all over and she gave me the best reactions to the stimulation.  I played with her breasts, armpits, back, side, neck, shoulder.  She was writhing in pleasure and then fell into a peaceful sleep.

This morning, she told me matter of factly that it was one of the most intense orgasms she's had.

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A few days before, I had been getting a pain in my scrotum.  It festered for a bit, so I asked her to take a look at it (it's difficult for me to see what's going on down there, so I needed an expert opinion).  She even suggested that we could "play doctor".  I've wanted to role play more, so I thought this would be fairly exciting.  She was tired, so it wasn't a full-blown session.  But she did come out and examine my balls.  I was fully naked and she was in her typical PJ's.  I held my cell phone light in that area, and she carefully examined me.  Such a turnon!!  This was one of the sessions that she refused an orgasm, but she did play with me, and I was in deep sub-space arranging my nude body so that she could stimulate my various erogenous parts.  No orgasm, but a hot experience.  I'd really like to explore more role playing, especially of the CFNM variety.  Perhaps a more drawn out version of doctor/patient in which she examines and discusses my sex life, asks me how often I ejaculate and how often my wife orgasms, basically getting very personal, but as it turns out, she is a doctor that only sees male patients and encourages sex for the wife's pleasure.  We shall see!

Last week, I had done a hasty shave job and I think it was a razor burn.  I don't usually take a lot of time on my scrotum hair, but I did use a razor in the shower and I must have been a little too eager.  What surprised me was that it was a few days after that I felt the pain.  things are getting better now.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

My "unicorn" hotwife

Things have slowed down a bit, due to some stressful family issues, Suzy having her period, and my libido being unexpectedly low (have I lost my "mojo"?).  We haven't been having a lot of sex lately, I think I got a handjob in last week, and used the vibe on her.

In spite of mother nature's "obstacle", Suzy continues to arrange for potential playmates when the time comes.  She had a meet and greet with a younger guy last week.  From what I can tell, it went quite well.  They did not do anything sexual, it was a ~2 hour coffee and I think he kissed her and hugged her.  She gave me the lowdown after the "date" and I was pretty excited (occasionally staring at her D-cups with a shirt specifically picked to highlight the "twin peaks".  Suzy basically said that she could see this guy being a regular playmate.  As most who have entered the hotwifing lifestyle will attest, good communication between the married couple is super important.  And when your hotwife looks you in the eye, unembarrassed, and says, "I'd like to have sex with him", you know you have a good amount of communication.

I am having a tough time keeping her potential playmates straight.  I don't really want to use their real names - it's possible she will let at least one of them on our blogging secret at some point.

Playmate #1 is totally out of the picture.

Playmate #2, "Mike" is still in the picture.  He is a super flake and she has had sex with him a couple of times.  She is open to meeting up with him again.  I kinda get excited at the thought that she needs more "practice" having sex with him.... sorta like she can't quite tell if she likes it so she needs to try again.

Playmate #3 (that is to say, her third extramarital sex partner) didn't contact her for a while after their carnal encounter, then said he wants to play again.  I am not sure how those discussions have gone.  She has said that he is the most likely "friend" to play in front of me (frankly, I don't know exactly what that means at this point - watching/tag-teaming/a full threesome with penetration from one male and her giving a blojob to the other... yes, please!), so naturally I am rooting for him.  Suzy has asked me a few times if I'd "really" be ok watching another male copulate with her.  I really do think I am!

She has a couple of other guys that she corresponds with by email/text/phone.  I believe she has one guy that likes her voice, and jacks off when (or after?) they talk.... phone sex!  At any rate, I don't have a solid understanding of where things stand with the men she hasn't yet met in person.

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What I do know is that even though my sex drive has been down, the thought of her playing hit me today, and I am super excited about it (yes, I have pre-come in my underwear right now).  Suzy has confided to me that things were a little overwhelming with her on the number of men that try to connect with her on her dating site.  She is a bit of a "unicorn" on her dating site, in the sense that a single male can approach her without producing a female partner to "share" with me.  Thus, the many inquiries from single men.  For now, it seems that she is going to stick it out with these 4-6 men for the time being.  Happy hotwifing, darling!

Friday, April 8, 2016

When hubby can't wait for seconds... anticipated "reclaim" sex of a hotwife

As you can see by my hotwife's latest blog post, we are going more and more into the cuckolding lifestyle.  Suzy has so far had 7 playdates with two different younger males.  Most of them were planned; one of the surprising issues we are having is the flakiness of the playmates.  You'd think that a horny guy would go more out of his way to remove obstacles such as girlfriends or work/family schedules to have no strings attached sex with a sexy MILF!

For me as the cuckold, being denied for the dates makes it more intense.  She had one date (with lover #1) that was somewhat spontaneous and we had actually had sex the night before (I'll never forget that orgasm, because I entered her missionary but her legs were completely closed - new sensation for me!)  While it turned me on a lot that she was playing, my balls were pretty drained and I was no longer horny.  I guess what I'm trying to say is that from my perspective, being denied (and therefore super horny) leading up to a playdate is pretty intense.  Our first cuckolding experience involved intense tease and denial and I was practically begging for her to get pounded by strange dick.

And that is our current situation.  Suzy has told me that I cannot have sex with her until she has sex with another male.  She said something to the effect that, "you get seconds, husband".  We had a sexy play time last night - she came out fully nude and fed me her nipples as part of foreplay.  She came nicely from fingering/Hitachi and I played around with her a bit, us both nude.  I was erect, and I asked her if I could enter her, and she assertively said, "no, not until I've had another lover".  What struck me is how confident and assured she was in her decision.

So, I'm practically craving her to get laid, so that I can "reclaim" her with some marital sex.  She has a "meet and greet" tonight, and therefore there is a possibility that she will click with him and possibly have intercourse.  Of course, I am rooting for both of them to have a good time.  Cuckolding is a team sport.

She has a tentative date this weekend with lover #2 ("Mike").  But he has been very flaky, and I'm not holding my breath (or should I say "cock"?  Not sure here).  So if it doesn't work out tonight, it may be a while longer until I enjoy Suzy's warm tight pussy.  She needn't worry, though, because I am more than willing to take care of her physical needs until that time comes.

So, wish us luck tonight!  She does have her sexy top, sexy thongs, and toy bag with condoms packed and ready to go.

Love you Suzy!